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*esperada
writes:Please help me. I come from a very religious country, and aside from that, I'm a Christian. I am 26, female and a virgin. Now I think my body wants to have sex so bad. I want to have sex, but my faith advises me to be celibate before marriage. Now I don't know what to do. I have a boyfriend on chat. We will meet, and by then, I hope I will know what to do, or not to do. I need advice from somebody who respects the Christian religion and knowledgeable about the female body clock or whatever you call it.
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reader, desperada +, writes (4 April 2010):
desperada is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks to my advisers. I appreciate your thoughts on my problem and your help. I know now that i don't have anything to be so worried about. If i love the person, and am sure that i won't regret having sex with him, then i have nothing to be worried about...if hurt comes, then I just move on.. There are more things that are more hurtful when they're taken away from you. Virginity yes, it's a treasure, but there's more to life than hiding from sex. And yes, I am virgin for so long coz i was hiding from sex. But it won't be sex when i do it though, but lovemaking. :)
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich +, writes (4 April 2010):
 Hello my dear co" Filipina.. first of all i want to tell you i am pure Christian Catholic just like you. I was in the church for 6 years as a Choir. My parents are extreme Catholic. And yes i was able to keep my virginity till i finish my college. After College i find`and start my Job, i become responsible to my self and even able to help my parents financialy. I got my first boyfriend when i was 22.
It was my belief to get married first before sex, but when my bf and me are already nearly one year sweetheart,things change, something happen. I just realise, Im only a woman, a normal human being and living in a reality of life not a dream. If i get married first before i have sex and then finally i will just find out that we are not meant for each other then im in big trouble, we both know devorce is not that easy in our wonderful country. So id rather choose finding more experience about love life, sex and how really life is in reality. I can not rely my future and life to my religions belief. As long you know how to protect your self against unwanted pregnancy and you knew exactly what youre doing i think everything will be ok. The religion is ok to belief but we should also think what is really going on in the reality of our life. Anyway i wish you good luck and good quit and peace of mind thinking about this.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 If you cannot control your urges, you should get married.
You may feel strongly about this urge but having premarital sex is against your religion and you will have to bear the sins .
Think of those consequences that will befall you if you engage in sex before marriage. STD's, STI's, unwanted pregnancy ,abortions, social stigma in your society,shame, and your future .
Don't take the wrong step in life.
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