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*innimes
writes:I recently found text messages on my hubbies phone from some one called D, they were signed with a x. I confronted him and he admitted it was from another woman. He is being treated for bad depression and said he only did it to feel good.He said he met her in a shop and he gave her his number. He told her we were seperated.I don't know what to do. He says they only talked and never met each other, but I don't know what to believe.I texted her and told her that we weren't seperated and I don't think they've had any contact since. Should I trust him? I feel like he's cheated on me. We've been together for 9 yrs and have 5 kids. Help.
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (27 September 2007):
 revenge is not the answer.
i was depressed for 5 years and it does help to have your confident boosted and the feeling you get from new interests are like no other, but i'm not justifying what he did.
you need to look inside your heart and ask yourself if you can trust you husband and when you get the truthful answer, you'll know what to do.
best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): This is really bad, you must feel devastated, i know i would. you need to sit down and have a good chat with your bloke and let him know just how hurt you are. Even though you have been together all that time and have kids you should let him know that this cannot go on like it is and he must stop it now. If he chooses not to then you have to decide what you want in the future. I think i would want him out of my life, if he can text then what is the next stage, meeting up and having sex. Sorry but i wouldnt be chuffed about this one.
take care
xx
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (26 September 2007):
 Hi
Doubt that would be a good idea.
There must of been something wrong for him to do it.
Gotta sit down and talk about it more. Because you have a right to know it all.
C xxxx
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reader, minnimes +, writes (26 September 2007):
minnimes is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni had no idea anything was wrong between us we have a good sex life we rarely argue and most people think were the perfect couple, i feel realy hurt, id never do it to him although revenge did enter my mind.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (26 September 2007):
Hi
How awful. Well i guess he wanted the confidence boost. But he needs to focus on you 2 and put in some effort. Its normal for things to go a bit pear shaped after some yrs but you have to make the effort. And that means making the effort with your partner not someone new!
Im sure he wouldnt of ever met her, just wanted a pick up, but even so, thats gotta smart a bit!
You 2 are gonna need to have a good chat and put some spark back by the sounds of it.
C xxxx
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