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Am confused and feel used

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Question - (18 October 2007) 9 Answers - (Newest, 21 October 2007)
A female South Africa age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I have just been dating a guy that i like a lot we have been together for 2 months,he has a girlfriend. But lately things have turned sour he lied to me saying he is sick he can't come to see me then i called him only to find out he is with his other girlfriend and now he is so distant. Does it mean he worked things out with her and is not interested in me anymore- worse part is that i have already slept with this guy and i think i am inlove with him. Please help me out!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007):

Yep, sounds like you, me and Lierin have all been seeing the same guy!

If you think you still have a chance with him, the main thing to remember is DON'T APPEAR DESPERATE. Don't give this selfish bastard the satisfaction of having yet another girl fall for him. Maybe he'll call you, but I doubt it. If he wants to see you, he will.

:( Sorry... I know that's probably the last thing you wanna hear right now... Maybe his girlfriend found out. Or maybe he's just a user... :(

The best thing to do, though, however hard it seems (it will get easier, I promise) is FORGET HIM. Seriously. Some people are so good at making their multiple partners feel 'loved'... but really they're just looking for sex. Yeah... at least you're not the one stuck with him. It might take a month, or three, or a year... but you'll get over him and end up kicking yourself for falling for such a cheating bastard. xxx

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A female reader, LIERIN United States +, writes (18 October 2007):

LIERIN agony auntWOW, are you in a relationship with the same guy I was months ago???????? He sounds exactly the same !!!!!!

GET AWAY FROM HIM!!!!!!!!

He is not going to leave his Girlfriend for you! He is lying, he doesnt like you, he is just using you for sex!

Forget him!!!!!

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A female reader, Fairy_Lu United Kingdom +, writes (18 October 2007):

Fairy_Lu agony auntHe had a girlfriend but still slept with you, i dont know who i feel more sorry for her or you, he is just a user if he cheated on his girlfriend he would have cheated on you if he left her, next time find an unattached guy

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A male reader, stuartb United Kingdom +, writes (18 October 2007):

stuartb agony auntI suspect he started this and the excitement of a new relationship was the driving factor, unfortunately you were draw into the excitement that that offered, From experience (see my story) this is not going to be good for you or him hindsight is a wonderful thing, I advise to stop now before it goes any further it will only end in tears..

S.x

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A female reader, hlskitten United Kingdom +, writes (18 October 2007):

hlskitten agony auntHi

Hey feel sorry for his woman. Shes stuck with him, you're not.

Stop being a femme fetale. Stay away from other womens men. Whatever happened to female solidarity.

Good luck.

*rollseyes*

C xxxxx

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A female reader, Lianna  United Kingdom +, writes (18 October 2007):

Hi, i think you need to do is give him space and time. Don't be ringing him or texting him - he'l not know what hes got or what he wants until its gone. It maybe that he will stay with his girlfriend or he my realise that you are the one that he wants. I know its hard but a similar thing happened to my friend it took 3month before he cameback to her and left his girlfriend of 4yeasrs. Good Luck

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A male reader, Yos Netherlands +, writes (18 October 2007):

Yos agony auntHe has a girlfriend? Well, sad to say but you got what was coming to you. How can you expect a guy to be loyal to you when he's obviously cheating from the start?

It sounds like he just wanted you for a bit of fun on the side. Take this as a life lesson: sleeping with other girls boyfriends is not the best way to start a relationship.

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom +, writes (18 October 2007):

kenny agony auntI think that this guy has used you and has had a girlfriend all along. I know you feel confused & used, but think to your self that you had a lucky escape. This guy was decieving you and you are better off without him. Find a guy that does not have a girlfriend, and gives you the love & respect that you so rightly deserve.

Take care x

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A female reader, flower girl United Kingdom +, writes (18 October 2007):

flower girl agony auntIt's very possible he is not interested in you anymore, but hey thats the risk you take when you start seeing someone thats already involed.

I think it's best that you just try and move on from this.

Take care.xx.

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