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30-35,
*allen-angel
writes:Ive been back with my boyfriend for a month now. we was together 6 weeks but we split up and have recently bk together.i took him back as he said wed try make it work this time and because i love him to pieces. but i feel like shit when im with him, i never see him and he doesnt seem to care how i feel hed rather be out with his girl mates and come back to see me when he feels like it. do i stay with him and be unhappy, or finish it and be unhappy because i would miss him like crazy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): Why are you asking us the question when the answer is staring you in the face???? You know you need to get rid and make a new start. You feel miserable when you are with him, er just what are you waiting for??? i would of been gone long ago. Get him out of your life, have some free time on your own and you will meet someone who you deserve in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): Agree with hlskitten. Either way you would be unhappy, wouldn't you? Why stay with a guy who makes you feel like shit when you can dump him, heal, recover and find happiness with a guy who'll treat you like a queen. Plainly your posting is stating that you believe you are worthy of being loved and treated nicely, all of the time. This guy is not providing that for you. In my opinion, he sounds uncommitted, self-centered and your posting paints a clear picture of a guy who profoundly disrespects you and possibly does not love you, in the way you deserve. You are a woman who is experiencing a painful, toxic love. Real love is a two-way street, an equal commitment between a man a woman. Love is supposed to make us come alive, look forward to life and truely enjoy our partners. And mutual respect is foundational. This isn't happening here. Your resentments, your frustration, your self-doubts...are caused by his lack of caring Many women try to rationalize a man's poor behaviour by putting a 'bandage' on his personality and his bad behaviours, which they cannot fix. I am glad this is not you. You are facing his imperfections and his lack of commitment head on. Dump him and move on...you truely deserve better. Be strong and make positive changes in your life...you'll never regret doing that. Good luck.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Hi
You would miss him for a while, then move on. This way you are getting wound up indefinately. I know what i would rather. And what i did. And yes, it sucks for a while but time really is a great healer!
If someone isnt giving you what you want, you're not compatible and thats no good at your age. Way too many more fish in the sea!
And all the while you are with the wrong one, you miss out on opertunities to meet the right one.
Good luck.
C xxxxxx
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