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*harlesplant
writes:hi! i've been with this girl ,A, for the past 2 years, i even got into her parents good books and we were as close as family. and when things began to get sour i made the ultimate mistake and ended the relationship. a month later, i was out with another girl. and A and her parents were angry and frustrated that i had moved on so quick. but a month later, we broke up cos we each couldn't forget about ex'es. even me, each and every day i thought about A. we ( me and A) have since met up and we both agree that we stil love each other but she needs some time. another thing is her parents. i really want to be accepted. please help me b4 i go bonkers.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (29 October 2007):
 Hi
I am a big believer in what will be will be, but you moved on very quickly for someone that supposedly made a mistake and still loved someone. Although it proved you couldnt manage it i guess. I find it hard to believe it took a month to realise that.
I cant ever get my head round how quick blokes move on from someone they supposedly adore.
Im in a similar situation as yourselves. My ex moved on real quick, into his exes bed, then someone 10 yrs older than him and spent a month or so sleeping with her (only for sex and apparently was straight up with her about how he still loved me, who knows) and now wants me back. And all that in 3 months since we split. But he says its not moving on at all, its having a messed up head at the time and wanting a confidence boost. We split 3 months ago. Im not saying i wouldnt ever get back with him but seeing as the reason we split was because he lied (about nothing serious) so the things he tells me at the moment about loving me, dont actually ring true. So there is no way im rushing back to anything. We are mates at the moment. No one needs to be in a rush.
Maybe your ex feels similar to me. You might have to be patient on this one.
C xxxx
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reader, AskEve +, writes (29 October 2007):
 Then you need to prove to her parents by your actions that you're serious about A this time. Take things slowly and set boundaries with A. Let her know that although you missed her very much there should be no more lies between you. Trust, honesty and communication are the cornerstones to any relationship. If you have these then it will go from strength to strength. Good luck!
Eve
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reader, AskEve +, writes (29 October 2007):
What happened in the relationship to make things go sour?
Eve
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reader, charlesplant +, writes (29 October 2007):
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well. what really happened was that, when things became "sour" i found it hard to trust her (A) in the things she did since she had lied to me a few times. there were a lot of insecurities in the both of us. her mum in particular was very very upset that i moved on so fast. after spending the last 2 years taking care of me. this is the kind of respect i show her daughter? so i should definately take things slow for now right?
i really really love A a lot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): charlseplant, you don't say anything about what went "sour", so there is a gap here I can't help with. Was it between you and A., or did it concern her parents? If you really want to resume the relationship, you must address what the cause of the problem was. You must reconcile with whoever the problem was with. Think on this and feel free to ask again here with more info, or pm me. Tom
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