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writes:I am addicted to other men's wives. I love sex, but honestly, only when it is with a married woman. There is just something so taboo about it.I have no boundaries, I've slept with co-worker's wives, , the neighbor's wife, two of my three brother's wives have affairs ongoing with me.I've even impregnated my neighbor's wife and she is playing it as his, which it could be, but timing wise it fits perfectly.This is a total obssession, I cannot control it. I do feel guilty, but at the same time I can't resist. I love hanging out with the husband shortly after too, if he only knew that his wife was bouncing up and down but an hour prior.What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): You've got it wrong.
Married women like having sex with you. You see, you are seeing it only from your side, and thinking "I like".
Well, you may like it, but they are all thinking you are not important enough to be married to or committed to in a relationship.
Who do they go back to when it is all done? Their husbands...who they do value in that way.
Don't be a fool, women like sex just as much as men do...and some women are just as selfish as some men...and some men are just as foolish as some women.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (14 August 2010):
Firstly, you don't seem to mention whether you are actually married or in a relationship. I somehow assume you are not.
You like it because although it's forbidden fruit, you also don't have the responsibility of being in a relationship either. It's kind of a fantasy and not real. Because you and the other person knows about it and no-one else. So that for you, makes it even more fun by your standards. It's sex with no ties.
The other downside of the whole thing, is it's a shallow existence. It's just sex and nothing more.
Surely you would want more for yourself in life than just sex. Sex is a great thing and it can be fun. Wouldn't you like to be loved for who you are completely and unconditionally, instead of just a quick roll in the hay just for the sake of it? Those casual partners you have had don't have any allegiences to you at all. Their love is for someone else, not you. It's just a break in their routine.
Sex with someone else's wife, as fun to you as it is, it's never going to equal the loving situation of "Making Love", which is what it is between a man and a woman who really love and respect each other. There's no real comparison. As well as that, there isn't the companionship there would be with a relationship of your own. You will always play second fiddle to someone else. Don't you believe you deserve better than that?
The casual sex you have, is very transient. Almost like a novelty and really nothing more. Sooner or later, the sex (no matter how fantastic you think it is), just won't be enough on it's own. You will get to the stage where you DO want more. You might even get bored with it.
Casual sex is often not really about sex at all. More about having nothing better to do. Perhaps starting a new hobby or interest would fill the gap in your life a lot more effectively. You will also be a lot happier generally. You won't have to sneak around behind people's backs all the time.
Just really think about what it is you really want out of life. You need to put more meaning into it. Best Wishes.
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reader, lionelhutz +, writes (14 August 2010):
Seek professional help. Nothing good will come from continuing this behavior, to say nothing of what might happen if your previous indiscretions are discovered.
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (14 August 2010):
 Check yourself into a sex rehab center (think Tiger Woods) this behavior is not healthy and will lead you no where. It's fun now, but eventually it wll take you down.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (14 August 2010):
Check yourself into a sex rehab center (think Tiger Woods) this behavior is not healthy and will lead you no where. It's fun now, but eventually it wll take you down.
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