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Aunty Aggy The Agony Aunt
writes:After the initial dating period, when we have got to know each other..every couple can get a little bored! Not with each other but routine.... some people actually like routine because it makes them feel secure! Others Don't.... but WE ALL feel it at sometime or other! Even if your married with kids or not..A man like s to come home from work to a pleasant place..he probably had grief at work ...ok so we have had a hard day too with the screaming kids so we scream at him when he comes home and want to delegate everything over to him as we have had it all day!He WILL do it if on just serving him his nice dinner say .."babe I am a little exhausted today would you mind just doing..... (whatever) give him a little kiss and a PROMISE train him in for his rewards like say for instance... "would you mind doing a couple of your shirts sometime this week and I'll promise you something extra special"..(romantically) leave him wondering... let him barter for his just rewards they actually like doing it that way... he may think hey If I dont do this I wont get any type of affection and believe it or not they DO LIKE TO FEEL NEEDED.... why do you think the little girl lost attitude works ... like "Oh I cant do this, its to heavy or I can't reach Can you your stronger than me" whilst feeling his pecs.... its attention and a challenge for him.... he likes to be noticed to ..not only in looks but for what he CAN actually do...OH and when he does do anything for you that you did like make sure to thank him and say ..wow thats great you did a great job...befor e the woman over the road or your friends say it before you ..thats when he notices the praise hearing it from someone else.... WE TEND to PULL HIM TO Pieces in front of people rather than praise ..and we are only doing this for moral support from others... but he can see this as HE can't do anything right! So it sticks with him and usually he doesnt do anything right he is passed caring! Women who are jealous tend to put their man down in front of other women for fear they like him... just observe next time your around a woman who is the jealous type with her man... she will type cast him as useless... believe it or not bumming your guy up on occasion in front of people makes him feel worthy and he may start to act that way and do more for you.....
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (16 August 2010):
Like you say, men do like to feel needed. If their woman does too much, it feels like she's his mother. Sometimes it might also feel (to him), like she thinks he's incompetent.
I agree, giving praise in front of your man to friends of yours, does wonders for his self-worth. Because sometimes that might be the only time they hear it.
That's a great idea about asking them to do stuff for you and then offering a favour in return, it keeps some mystery about you. Makes life more interesting.
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