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writes:im 14 yrs old i 've been made fun since i was very little. I was always the ugliest one the one who had a hard time making friend the one who everyone felt bad for. And the one who everyone picked on the one, who everone thought was gay. The one with the smallest boobs. Im still most of those thing especially the ugly one. I've never had a boyfriend or even i guy who liked me. Im prettier than i was before and i sometime feel like the girl boys test out on (like flirting Ect). I have alot of guy friends but i want a boyfriend. You know i always feel like a boy likes me but its them doing their whole experiment its usually the really hot boys that do that. And the kinda ugly one are the one who wont talk to me. I have a weird taste in boys, i like every kind of boys which was a reslut of me lowering my standards. Which are really low. I dont know what to (please dont tell me im to younge for love or boys). I feel fat also i've even tried and wearing makeup and wearing shirts that make my boobs show it still doesn't change how they talk to me only how they look at me. Which are the kind of looks i want. What do i do to make boys like me more than a friend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): if you believe in yourself, you will get prettier, and small boobs isnt bad, there are a lot of boys that would love a girlfriend with small boobs... people say youu are gay, so what? thats their opinion, and at least you know you arent.. even if you were ity wouldnt matter!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): Don't you know that it's girls like you who bloom into the most beautiful ones? You probably just need to mature a bit and then your womanly charms will attract men. And small boobs do get bigger as you age and have children of your own.
Hang in there and cut yourself some slack. The perfect man will come along someday who will love you for what and who you are.
I have a cousin who's really not very attractive and she's now engaged to a very handsome man and he's crazy about her.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 "You have heard of the story of the ugly duckling have you not? The ugly duckling eventually turned into a beautiful swan - and so will you."
Very, very true Dorothy. Some of the most beautiful women I know said they were ugly through high school. Even if you are as ugly as you think you are (which you aren't!), being ugly builds character, it builds personality and a depth that most "barbie doll clones" won't achieve til they're 40... if ever.
Trust me when I say that you'll only get prettier as you grow older. As long as you don't become bitter and you stay optimistic, you'll become a real catch for some guy one day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): I agree with the person who commented. But you have to make peace with your body. I'm kinda chubby/thick and i made peace with mine. just think "my body is fine the way it is but it could be a bit better". If small boobs are such a problem for you then push-up bras might boost your confidence. and v-necks also enhance certain body parts. Those skinny jeans/jeggings really hug your curves and show off your figure.and VANS or NIKE'S and sometimes CONVERSE would be the best shoes to wear. Some people have terrible acne(i dont know if you do) but Neutregena Acne Kit helps and so does Dr.Miracles(its kinda harsh at first though, makes your face red first few times). You can also get your eyebrows waxed(mine tend to get REALLY bushy. And hairstyles have ENDLESS possibilities. You can do a twist in it or a braid or a side ponytail. Youtube has good tutorials, but make sure you type in your hair length when you search. And also, chapstick and gum doesnt hurt ;)
here's some videos:
Long/curly hair:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k8LoFXuDZr4&feature=related
Find EVERYTHING here: http://www.youtube.com/user/siderasuperstar
-hope i helped :)
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reader, Princess Aunty  +, writes (4 December 2010):
"In some cases ugly girls can attract handsome guys..."
In some cases ugly girls can attract handsome guys. See a handsome guy always does not look for a girl who is beautiful from the outside they end up rotten from the inside. So handsome guys rather go for girls whose beauty lies within them. But i would not call anyone ugly. Women are a beautiful creation.
What is UGLY? It's not what you look like it's a characteristic trait that form your character.People in general are beautiful,but once you show that ugly side of you,you become ugly.Society have made looks to be ugly,that is not true it's how you treat someone that makes you ugly! This is why handsome men choose a different women,beauty is only a shield to cover the uglyness to come,don't be deceived!
Here are some tips on how you can attract boys :-
1. First of all, you're much more physically attractive than you think you are, and
2. Looks don't matter when you use the simple, proven techniques we recommend
Sure, if you're just sitting around at a table in a bar or a nightclub and not saying anything, looks are about the only thing men can assess you on. But the second you make eye contact, or brush your hair back in a certain way, or smile, or even say something - everything changes. Looks all of a sudden take a back seat to who you are and what you're about to do. The guy becomes aware that you may be interested in him, and this is more powerful than any physical appearance any girl could ever possess.
"If you want to know how to attract men, one of the best things you can do for yourself is realize that guys love it when girls give them attention."
Now, let us ask you this: Are you sick of having dirty, creepy men approach you instead of the dreamy, successful ones? Many of us are. The best way to avoid the creepy men and attract the cute ones is to be proactive about it and take the step to fulfill your desires.
Don't be the girl to sit and wait for things to happen for you.
Don't be the girl to watch your friends meet all the good looking, great guys.
Don't be the girl to let life pass you by and regret what hadn't done.
Don't be the girl who doesn't take the next step to becoming irresistible!
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (4 December 2010):
Hi there. Small boobs doesn't mean ugly. At the young age you are now, you still have at least another 7 years before you have reached your adult body size and shape. In fact by about age 25 years, you will be what you are going to be for most of your adult life. But most of that development will have happened from now until about age 18-20 years. So you have a lot of growing still to do. Don't give up yet.
Not only will your bust develop more, your facial features will change and your waist and hips as well. Constantly now, your body is changing from the moment of puberty.
You have heard of the story of the ugly duckling have you not? The ugly duckling eventually turned into a beautiful swan - and so will you.
Just be yourself. Think of yourself as beautiful, and accept yourself unconditionally. When you feel beautiful, you become more confident inside and it shows on the outside. You will have a glow about you, that can't be explained.
You have a lot of guy friends you say, so maybe you also act like a guy yourself. You might be losing some of your feminine ways because of that.
Because you hang out mainly with boys, they probably all see you as one of the boys. They might not look upon you as a girl. You might have more in common with the boys when you talk, than you do with the girls. You are probably thought of as a tomboy - just by how you act.
You can't help who you are. It's no good pretending either, to be something you are not.
For you to become a bit more feminine thinking, you really need to be hanging out with more girls and try and learn some lessons from them - by observing how they talk and act.
Particularly observing the girls that some of the boys go over and talk to. See if you can work out what "magic" they have about themselves, which you could develop in yourself, over time.
At the moment because you are not yet mature in your body growth, you are feeling a bit awkward. You are no longer a child, but not quite an adult yet either. You will see even in another 2 years from now, how much different things will all be then. If you took a picture of yourself now and then, you'll see a dramatic difference - a complete transformation. Just be patient, it's all happening now as we speak.
When you get your school yearly photos, if you compare this years's photo with last year's and the one before, I'm quite sure there's a marked difference, as you have grown over that time. This is something you could do, compare them over the last 3 years. You will see what I mean.
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reader, answerlessdreams +, writes (4 December 2010):
It is normal to feel insecure about your looks at 14 and as for people making fun of you, I think most of us got that in some form in school. There will always be people to make fun of you in this life. The question is what do you do about it. It looks to me that you have accepted the insults they have dished out to you as reality or truth. The REAL truth is that beauty is on the inside as well as on the outside. You sound like you are so preoccupied with being what the guys want - you almost forget about being yourself.
The real thing that attracts good men is being confident in yourself. Do not ever tell yourself you are ugly, fat, or anything like that. Most likely, you are none of the above, and its just your mind over analyzing. I still do this myself, and I am 22. What you learn over time and experience is that in order to be attractive to others - you must be attracted to yourself - ie love yourself for who you are! Yes there will be bad days, times you don't look 100%, but if you didn't have those days - you are not human.
Know that in your heart, you are special and wont go to the lowest bidder. Now to address you wanting a boyfriend. Boys at this age are confused! They don't know what they want.
Have you considered this? - There are guys that would go out with you in a heart beat, but they are not confident enough or too afraid of rejection to ask you. The answer is yes yes yes. I was one of them when I was younger. If rejection was an option, I was too scared to try. So with that knowledge - don't wait for the guy to ask you =].
If you want milk from the store - do you wait for it to come to you? No, you go to the store and get it. Same thing with guys. Start telling people you are interested in them. See a boy you like in a class - start up conversation, but don't just leave it there. Ask him if he would like to go to the movies "for a date". Don't send signals - They never work. If he says yes - Win! If he makes excuses or say no - move on, he is probably not worth your time. Use your time for guys willing to go out with you. Even if he says no, he will be flattered that you even asked! Win Win.
Ok last topic - Breast size. Here is a big secret to breast. Guys like breast of all sizes. I have been with women that have had breast sizes from A-D. The truth is- it makes no real difference. If it does to the guy - he is shallow and not mature. It can also be personal preference.
So please stop beating up on yourself. Go have fun and don't take things so seriously. You are only 14. I have found that by not looking for a relationship - that is when a relationship happens. Why is that - cause you are being yourself.
*hugs*
~Answerlessdreams~
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