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female
age
36-40,
*tinak
writes:Hi! I am currently in a one year relationship with my boyfriend. We always fight about drinking alcohol,because I have done stuff in the past that is not right,I never cheated on him but Ive said mean things. So, we recently just got into a huge fight because I went to party and drank,when I said I wouldn't anymore. A day after our fight,he tells me his friend is having a party and he is going! He knows I have temptations with alcohol, and we had just fought about this, yet he brings up a party on the weekend we were supposed to hang out..WHy isn't he taking my drinking problem into consideration? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (18 December 2010):
Hi there. If you think you have a drinking problem, it is up to you do do something about it - not him.
Are you trying to do something about it?
Is it that you drink excessively?
Or, is it the behaviour while you are drinking, that is the real problem?
If it's the behaviour while you're drinking, then cut back on your drinking. Just don't have so many alcoholic drinks. After 2 drinks, switch to soft drink instead. Drinking is only a habit. Many young people have a lot of drinks, because they feel more relaxed. Also, because of boredom.
The other alternative of course, is to go somewhere they don't serve alcohol. Go see a movie together. Go for a drive and walk along the beach at night time, it's a lovely peaceful experience.
If he wants to go to the party, tell him to go on his own, and that you aren't interested in going. It's your call. You don't HAVE to go. The choice is entirely up to you.
Especially if this is important enough to you, and it seems that it is, all the more reason for choosing not to go the party. Then you will not be tempted to drink too
heavily.
Another thing you might not have thought about is, after you have had a lot of drinks, you start to lose control of your senses and could end up raped or if not rape, you could end up in bed with someone, and not know how you got there.
The more you drink, the less control you have over what happens to you. Your safety is entirely your responsibility. Good luck and best wishes.
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