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writes:So i like him a lot, but the problem is that he just broke up with his girlfriend. I know that he doesnt really care that they broke up so its not like he is hesitant about having another relationship. We have been really close and talk every day, i just dont know what to do. I like him so much and this time more than friends. Im afraid to ask him how he feels. help me please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): Don't ask him directly,do it more cleverly. Bring up conversations like "my single friend must be lonely,and wants a certain guy..but they don't communicate much.I always find a guy that I talk to alot,to be worth it..How do you feel about it?" Drop little hints and stuff like that,flirt a little..but don't make it clear what you're doing.If you don't want to ask him directly,then ask him indirectly..simple.=) Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): That's right... best not to talk feelings before you guys are serious. Know by how he treats you, etc. (but this does not involve spending money or remarkable politeness/chivalry...it does not involve anything Grand necessarily, at all).
Just keep in contact and see how things progress.
-Tante V
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (11 December 2010):
Hi there. You can't ask him how he feels about you. If you do, it would probably chase him away and would make him think that you are getting heavy with him - marriage, kids, mortagage, the works!
If you ever ask a man how he feels about you, it starts to make you look needy and desperate. You don't want to do that.
A girl can usually see if a guy at least likes her by how he treats her and how he speaks to her.
For instance, does he take you out at all? If he does, does he spend money on you?
As he has just ended a relationship, he might be taking it slow as regards getting into another one just yet. So just get to know him a bit better over the next few weeks, then one day, maybe ask him out for coffee. See if he says yes, and then see how it goes. Just keep it light and friendly, don't ask him about feelings - guys don't like that at all. Talk about life, music, likes and dislikes - just get to know him more.
You are not complete strangers, you already know each other.
Just gauge how it goes over the next few weeks. You will know when the time is right to ask him to a cafe for coffee.
The main thing is to take it slow, no pressure from you.
Good luck and best wishes.
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