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36-40,
anonymous
writes:So I like this guy, he has a ton of friends, so it's hard to ever get him alone. He's SUPER sweet and nice, and always smiles at me and says my name when he says hi. There have been times where we'll text each other for hours. I lost all the contacts in my phone, and I won't see him for a few weeks. Should I wait for him to text me? What if he doesn't? Does he even like me?
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reader, honest_human  +, writes (19 December 2010):
"we'll text each other for hours"
He will text you. Period.
Then tell him the story of the 'lost contacts' and laugh.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (19 December 2010):
Hi there. He must at least like you a bit, as he smiles and says hi and your name. If he didn't like you, he probably wouldn't even say hello. So that's a positive.
It's wise to wait for him to text you. If you contact him first, it could make you look needy and desperate. Men don't like that, it can push them away altogether.
Just stay calm and be patient. If he used to text you before now, he will again.
In the meantime, just enjoy the holiday break and see what happens in the new year.
The short break will do you both a lot of good. A breath of fresh air. A few short weeks will go very quickly.
Is texting the main form of contact you have, or does he call you sometimes?
Texting is alright, but talking either in person - face to face - or over the telephone are much better alternatives.
If you can try to get out of the habit of texting with him, it's so impersonal. See if you can work it, that in the new year you can have more one on one contact.
If you are out in a group, try during the night, to get him on his own. Pick your time and softly whisper in his ear if you can talk just the two of you. Then see how you go from that point.
I take it that you are friends at the moment, but that you would like it to be a bit more. Well, friends is certainly a great start.
One word of warning though, don't jump into bed at the first opportunity. If you start going out, just the two of you, really get to know him well before you even think about sleeping with him. Let him first show you some respect, spend some money on you, taking you out to nice places, movies, shows etc. This could take a few weeks, but it will be well worth the wait.
The reason I warn about this, is sometimes when a woman jumps into bed with a guy from the very beginning, it can become a "Friends With Benefits" (FWB) relationship. The guy then only calls the girl when he wants sex. But all the association is, is sex only - no going out, caring for, respect. Not very much at all. If you have ever been in this type of relationship, it's very hard to get more from it than sex. There's very little hope of a future together. So beware of this with any guy you decide to go out with. It does make a difference.
Good luck and best wishes.
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