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writes:I am 29 year old single guy. I have been suffering from depression for last 8 years. I feel extremely anxious at workplace and cannot concentrate on work. I generally avoid contact with people and i want to stay way from them. Same thing happens when people see me, they shy away from me. I don't understand this. Is it because i feel stress and they too feel the stress when they are around me or is it just in my mind. Can someone feel the same stress/ anxiety when he/she is around or is communicating with a person who is having those feelings?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (4 December 2010):
Hi there. Another person can't actually physically feel your stress or you make them feel stressed either.
When you feel stressed, you are not relaxed and you might have a closed look about you in your posture -
- Slouched at the shoulders.
- Arms folded.
- Standing all hunched together.
- A frown on the face - no smile.
These last four body positions, represent a negative, closed-minded personality. Not open to friendship.
If you were to stand in the following ways, it is a more friendly form of body language. People are more likely to want to approach you.
- Straight arms by the sides and standing up straight.
- A friendly expression on your face.
- A smile if someone friendly looks at you.
Have you been to a doctor about your depression and anxiety? If not, it might be wise to have a chat to your family doctor and see what he recommends.
Depression and anxiety can be treated and kept well under control, so that you can function well and feel relaxed all the time. However initially, it might take some trials of different treatments to find out which is most suitable for you. It is worth your while looking into it further.
It can't be very pleasant for you feeling all that anxiety constantly, it's certainly not healthy anyway.
If you haven't done this already, make an appointment to see your family doctor about it. Eight years is a very long time to put up with something that can be managed, and managed well. Once you are on a treatment, you will be monitored and will have to visit with either your doctor or a psychiatrist about every couple of months or so, just to make sure it's all going well.
Depression and anxiety left untreated, can eventually affect your general health and you will find that lots of other things will start happening as a result of the depression. They are all negative.
Please don't delay doing this. It's really important. It will change your whole life, once you no longer feel anxious.
Take care and best wishes.
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