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writes:My ex and I broke up, (he broke up with me) because he said he didnt love me and he was too busy. which is fair enough, I appreciated his honesty on the matter. We decided to stay friends. I saw him last week and we were speaking about things and he pointed out that he did still love me but it made things easier for us to break up if there was a better reason than just a lack of time.I understand the lack of time, but we both seem to love eachother very much. I just can't get my head around why we couldn't make it work. He said, "its too hard to love someone you can't see very much" but if we both love each other still anyway, I dont see the difference?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (6 December 2010):
Hi there. Why can't you both see each other very much?
Is it because of work?
In a relationship, you only need to be able to see each other once or twice a week - not every single day.
It really depends on how much - to him - is enough. Did he define this to you?
If you did see each other every day, that would soon become a bit stifling. You'd never have any time to yourselves.
You both need your space. Having your own space, makes it more interesting and gives you both more things to talk about, when you do see each other.
Anyway, if you are at least still friends, that's a start. Just see how things pan out over time.
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reader, Mjfbla  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 He has a valid point. For you just knowing he loves you is enough to make you happy. He wants to be able to spend time with you. Maybe try to make more time for him.
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