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writes:hey. ive been with my boyfriend a while now. and just recently he has been playin Warcraft a lot.. it doesnt bother me that he plays it.. but i only see him on weekends and just recently, he been just been playing this game for like 6 hours at a time. i ask him to watch a movie or come for a walk with me. and he says he doesnt want to. i ask him to turn it off and just talk to me and he says theres nothing to talk about and starts getting angry. ive asked him if the game is more important than me and he replies no course not baby i love you and kisses me.. expecting to be all better.. i got heaps mad about this the weekend just gone. coz it felt like i was just there to entertain him when the game was loading. he just played his game while i sat in the lounge talking to his mum.. so much fun!!!.. but im yeah i dont know what to do. i tried talking to him about it. asking him not to play it when im around but he says he needs to get to level 80. ive tried playing it but i didnt like it.. im just lost and feel like right now this relationship is just a waste of time.. :( please help or guide me. i dont know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): thanks everyone.. he wants me to go there this weekend.. and i just told him i cant see him coz i got stuff to do. :) thanx thanx :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): Oh man, your stuck kinda. I am a gamer also, female, but I hated WoW. My hubby and I play FFXI. It is a online game also, and VERY addicting. I recently stopped playing cause after hours upon hours, it consumed my life. Think my hubby stopped?? LMFAO I am sooo sorry to say, he isn't gonna stop for you which is very sad since you only get to see him on weekends. It's time to move on, or tell him its you or the game. He will get upset, yes, but it won't get any better. If he just started and is already this hooked on it, its just gonna get worse.
These online games are causing people to lose jobs, friends, fail school, etc...cause they are addicting.
GL to you
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 He sounds like a typical WoW head..there's something about that game that ropes people in to where they're obsessed with playing it from noon till dawn. Now if your boyfriend is only on it for 6 hours at a time, then he's not addicted to this game. However, if you're not getting what you want out of this relationship such as affection and more time spent together then I suggest you end it. You're not going to get him off of WoW, you've already tried..Don't even bother giving him an ultimatum, you won't like the results.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): Being honest.
The new Warcraft comes out, like tomorrow..
So, it's a time where all the Warcraft geeks, are geeking it to the max.
I've played warcraft, and I only see my gf at weekends also cause im at university. But she goes mad at me for playing it at the weekend even just for an hour.
I've stopped. I've quit WOW in the past 3 weeks, because she said i'd lose her if I dont stop playing it when im with her. But I stopped it in total. Because, even if you play it during the week, you WANT to play it during the weekends. But yea, I stopped it completely. I suggest to tell him, he will lose you.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 December 2010):
 I agree with Mifbla. If he is playing WoW, go home. Do something with friends. Eventually he will realize that he needs to cut down on his play time.
I'm a gamer, have been for 11 years. But it doesn't control my life, nor do I play games when I can hang out with my children. Though... it is a love distraction from housework, I have to say ;)
Maybe, you need to reconsider your relationship?
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reader, shnookims  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 Wow, I feel like i could have written this 3 years ago. You need to lay down the law and tell him, you wont come around if he's going to spend the whole time playing warcraft!
Slowly my bf and i came to a compromise and now he plays on weekends, only after i go to sleep, for about 4 hours. You need to xome up with a system that works for you.
it is an addiction though and you need to sort it out before you start resenting him.
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reader, Dream Chaser +, writes (6 December 2010):
He probably likes you.
He does seem like he's addicted to Warcraft.
You say you've been going out a while.
It sounds perfectly natural to me. You're not always going to want to do stuff with him and vice versa. I was going to suggest that you put it out of your mind and he'll come round. Guys do have a need to play games and have fun. Unfortunately, games like that are terribly addictive and waste far too much time.
Anyway I just wanted to say that guys playing a lot of videogames is normal and it doesnt mean that he's not into you or anything. Its natural.
However, I do think that having you around whilst he plays is kind of odd. I like the idea of suggesting you go out rather than going back to his place all the time. You dont need to see each other all the time either (too much of anything soon becomes wearing), just make sure that when you do see eachother, you're doing something that you both enjoy, or at least are enjoying each others company.
Perhaps let him do his thing over the next week or so and not see him as much, give him plenty of time to get stuck into his game. Let him have his man-cation and eventually when he's ready, he'll want to spend more time with you.
Think about it like chocolate. It tastes great, but have too much at once and it becomes much less enjoyable to eat. If you wait for a bit, it'll taste nice again.
Probably the best thing to do is to not worry about him. If you dont want to be there watching him play games, then do something for yourself (go shopping or whatever you like to do with friends). See him when he's ready to spend time with you.
I hope this helps. Good luck :)
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (6 December 2010):
Hi there. It looks like he's addicted, I think. There's nothing you can do to stop him really, when you are there.
The other thing you can do is, don't go there.
Instead, next time he calls you to see you, ask him to come to your place instead. Or, you could ask him could the two of you go out somewhere, and maybe see a movie you both like. Just anything!
From what you have said, it doesn't sound like you go out at all. It sounds like he picks you up, then takes you back to his parents' house and he plays games on the computer! It doesn't even sound like a relationship.
He probably does like you ok, but at the moment this Warcraft game has most of his attention. It's hard to compete with.
The next time he calls you to see you, suggest to him like I was saying before, to go out somewhere. If he says no, he wants to go home to play Warcraft, simply say to him - "No, sorry I can't. I have to go somewhere." Then say you have to go, and finish the call.
Don't give any details about why you can't come over, just let him wonder - and he will wonder. Also, stay calm and don't be angry or upset either.
Don't mention it's because of Warcraft. If you did, he would try and wiggle his way out of it and try and convince you to come over anyway. So just don't say a thing. Keep it a bit of a mystery.
If you do this every time from now on, eventually he will want to change what he is doing if he thinks there is a possibility he could lose you.
At the moment you are being taken for granted.
As a consequence of this, you need to take action - now!
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (6 December 2010):
 Dont go around if he is going to play it. Leave if he plays it and ur there. its pointless to b bored. Maybe then he will learn
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