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writes:4 weeks ago my gorgeous staffy died. She was 15 years old. I got her from rescue when she was 18 months old. I am still heartbroken over her death. I knew it was coming as she hadn't been herself for a while and she was on steroids. I had to get the vet to come and she left us whilst in her bed, with me next to her.My partner met me when she was around 8 years old and he loved her too. Today he mentioned us splitting up as we're not going anywhere. He gets upset over her death too, even though she was my dog and i'd had her over 13 years. so now, he's talking about leaving....i have 2 adult daughters and a grandson , but he has no one else really (he has fallen out with all his family and not spoken to them for years- before he met me even).I'm feeling so anxious and sad
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 April 2017):
 I am sorry for the loss off your pet. There must be a reason why he wants to split up am sure it has not come out off nowhere in five years. You both should sit down and talk to each other and see if it can be fixed. As for the dog, I know it was your pet but he is allowed to feel sad as well, it is not a competition. Off course you feel sad but you need to talk to each other and see why he wants to leave. He should not stay with you just because his family don't speak to him as that would be cruel to you.
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reader, N91 +, writes (18 April 2017):
 Can this be salvaged? Is he willing to talk and fight or is his mind made up? If he will talk communicate clearly to deal with the problem as soon as possible. If he's made his mind up then you need to let him go and remove all forms of contact so that you can start healing.
I'm sorry you're having to deal with a death of your dog at the same time. A lot of people don't realise how serious it is and think it's just a pet. It is a lot more than that, it becomes part of the family.
I send you my best wishes X
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reader, Denizen +, writes (18 April 2017):
 At the moment feelings are raw. I would advise you both to take things slowly. Don't rush to enforce decisions which you might later regret.
In the meantime may I suggest a trip to the dog's home? There are so many animals just waiting to give their love to anyone who can provide a home.
They will never replace your dog but each has a personality which will endear you to them while your partnership sorts itself out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2017): Just cause your partner has no family to speak off doesn't mean he should stay with you if he's unhappy....i am sorry for your sadness over the dog but if your fella wants to leave , let him go be happy ...
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