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writes:I am seeing someone new who treats me wonderful, the way I've always wanted to be treated, but all I think about is my ex, who I treated great, she ghost me, what I think about is why couldn't my ex treated me this way, it could of been so wonderful, I do like my new girl friend, I just wish I could forget my ex so I could give my new girlfriend all my love, could my ex been going through what am going through now, that's why she ghost me, would appreciate any ones thoughts
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 June 2017):
 You need to try and let go off your past or else it is going to prevent you from moving on in the future. Are you sure you are ready to be with someone else?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2017): Youve fixated on your ex for some romantic reason and painted her as more wonderful than she really is!
No-one on this earth could live up to this idealised version of her.
Now you have someone who is trully capable of keeping you happy but you are blocking them by thinking of your ex.
This is very sad because you will only realise this persons true worth when they have moved on.
Try to live in the present as if there had never been anyone else romantically involved with you and then you may be able to feel genuine emotion.
It is dishonest to be with someone and to keep thinking of someone else!
You, yourself are putting yourself in this state of limbo because possibly you have a deepseated fear of commitment!
You need to forget the ex otherwise you are just using the person you are with.
Nice guy syndrome...No, its not nice at all!
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (23 June 2017):
Well, the OP has chosen not to follow up but I believe he is one of our regular posters who suffers from "Nice-Guy Syndrome". He had a short-term but very intense relationship with a woman who then went straight back to her abusive partner once he had been released from jail.
OP, - if I'm correct and this IS you. It's been a very long time since this woman ditched you. I first remember reading one of your posts in 2014 where you said that it had been nearly two years since she had left. That means it's been nearly 5 years and it's still affecting your ability to have further romantic relationships because you usually self-sabotage them. I think it might be time to consider some professional therapy.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (22 June 2017):
 I don't hear often about someone being ghosted by someone referred to as an "ex", which causes me to believe that there was a permanent relationship happening versus just a few dates or a single sexual encounter and then a disappearing act.
Can you tell us how long you and your ex were together, and what exactly you mean by "ghosted"?? Did she disappear from social media, her job, your phone? It's a lot harder to ghost someone nowadays versus the pre-internet era.
It gives me an idea about what your relationship was with your ex, so I can give the best advice, rather than just "get over her".
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