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writes: my hubby has a female friend even he does not belieive in friendship with opposite sex...she is his college from 4 years....they are too much emotionally attached...just like an emotional affair...they remain in content everytime...he says he loves her as friend but i feels he loves her..?.often he tries to disconect but in vain...the girl remain in touch and texting becomes .more and more just like addiction...he lives with me but absent or texting...i loves him too much....how can i make it possibile to get rid from...i am sure if she will not contect i can feel the presence of my hubby...it is a mental torture and heatache for me...plz advice me as soon as possibile
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reader, chocoholicforever  +, writes (18 January 2011):
this is a problem with your husband, not with the other woman.He's the one who's married to you, so it's his responsibility to not allow their friendship to cross inappropriate boundaries. Obviously he's failing.If you chase off this other woman, it doesn't change the fact that he wants her in his life so he will just find new sneaky ways to stay in contact with her.Even if you manage to "get rid" of her, it doesn't change the fact that he wants her so it won't bring him closer to you it will only make him resent you for taking away something he wanted. that's why it has to be HIS choice to end his relationship with her.You can't be running around trying to protect your marriage if your husband is determined to bring an outsider in it.In other words, I believe this is not an issue between you and the other woman, this is between you and your husband.Forget the other woman, see this as a problem with your husband or within him.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (17 January 2011):
 hi
what an awful situation! you make it sound like the woman is the one doing all the chasing. are you sure about this? if you husband didn't want to hear from her he only has to change his number. if he does not want to give up this text friend, you cannot make him. even if he says he has ended it. you will not know if he is telling you the truth.
do you think you will trust him again? what is the content of their messages? is he secretive with his phone? does he take it everywhere with him? does he lock it with a code? does he delete all his messages? if he is not doing these things, then it looks like it may just actually be friendship.
when your husband says he does not agree with friendships of the opposite sex, i think he means he does not want you to have friendships with men but its ok for him to have friendship with women.
tell him how unacceptable you find what he is doing and that he is destroying the trust. if he really cares about you he will do whatever he can to reassure you
xx
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