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writes:ive recently become reacquainted w my "stepbrother" we havent seen each other in over 20 yrs. my mom married his dad and his dad adopted me and my sister. he has since past away. i didn't know my step brother growing up we only lived together about a year b4 he moved out. we are attracted to each other immensely and have decided to just be bro/sis prob is we have a lot in common and get along great. when we hang out it doesnt seem like hes my brother. i dont think that we will b able to pull off this bro/sis charade forever. if we cross that line, theres no going back. im afraid that if i spend enough time w him i will fall in love w him. we do things together like go to movies, dinner, play pool, you name it we enjoy doing it. Im so conflicted because its hard to push my feelings aside and look at him. help! should we just let it be and be bro/sis or should we try to explore these feelings and perhaps end up w someone who we could spend rest of our lives together with?
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reader, j321 +, writes (18 May 2011):
The real issue here is how does your mom think about you two hooking up. I would ask you mom about your feelings and see if she is with you two having a relationship. If she is ok with it and you two fall in love their is not a biological question here, but maybe the adoption might interfer. If it does then if you are here in the USA the state of Kentucky just legalized the sister brother civil union. I would follow through and see what happens.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (15 January 2011):
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well as you are not blood related it is not a problem biologically BUT the fact that his dad legally adopted you and your sister may cause a problem legally. do you think a relationship would be accepted by your family? bear in mind that if you DO embark on a relationship, that maybe turns sour, you cannot then just resume being a sister to him. i think you should be grateful that you have a great adopted stepbrother and try to fill your life with other things as well, you may not then feel the need to push this relationship over a line which you KNOW is quite dubious
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reader, golddigger99 +, writes (15 January 2011):
 You are NOT blood brother/sister, so technically there is nothing wrong with exploring things further. I believe it to be important to speak your concerns to eachother and understand eachothers feelings. If he too feels the same way, then there is nothing that anyone can say to sway you one way or the other. You two will ultimately have to take the final plunge. Good Luck!
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