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writes: How do men feel about having sex while she's on her period?I know many may like to claim they don't care or say things like, "put a towel down and go to town," but sometimes I can help but wonder if it the bleeding doesn't gross them out.If you are with someone new, how do you go about approaching this subject to see how they feel about it? I want to call him up and spend time with him this weekend, but I'm not sure at what moment and in what context to tell him that I have my period. The worst thing I think I could do is initiate sex only to surprise him and then have him tolerate rather than enjoy sex.I just want to give him fair warning in case sex that way is a no-go for him. How do you bring this up before hand?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to everyone who helped. For every other boyfriend I have had, this has always been a non-issue.
But with this new guy, I just have this feeling he may be squeamish about it.
I set up a lunch date. I'll figure out someway to let him know during that time. I'll leave it up to him to propose something further. Thanks for all advice!
Cerberus probably said what I most wanted to hear even if it was a bit raunchy :)
And to the Male anon (responded on the 18th), thanks for the insightful comment.
And thank you to angleDlite for the tough love.
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reader, NJlove2011  +, writes (18 January 2011):
I personally, Will never have sex with a girl, my wife, no one on the period. I just dont find it sexy or clean. That week every month means its time to take care of your man. Treat him like a queen for that week.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): Women alwsys seem very self concious about this. It ONLY BLOOD. Now, I don't like clots or lots of dried blood, but if you love her, it's about loving her completely. It is part of who she is.
My GF is a horn dog, but she goes completely asexual during her week because she is so self concious. She'll gladlyhave it to please me, but I dont get off unless she is aroused, and she tends to not be during her period. So we usually bond in other ways and maybe some light sexual activity. Gets us by.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (18 January 2011):
 hi
surely if you are intimate enough with him to be having a sexual relationship with him, you are intimate enoughto be able to say to him "look, i'll be on my period at the weekend and i'm not sure how you feel about that, but just letting you know"
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (16 January 2011):
The men that I've been with will still do it sometimes, but don't find it the most appealing. It's not a turn on, sometimes a turn off, but it's not that bad for some guys.
As for how to broach the subject, you can still spend time together when on your period, so just tell him you're on it. He should already know that it'll happen and it's normal. Then, when you are hanging out and he knows you're on your period, you can just say that you wish you guys could do something and you're so horny, but you're on your period. Then watch for what he says. He might say that you can still have sex, or he might be emphatic that he doesn't want anything to do with sex during your period. Either way, you should be able to judge his reaction somewhat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): Just tell him when you've started kissing or you think it's time you're going to have sex that you're on your period. Then I'm sure by his reaction you'll know if he's comfortable having sex with you or not still.
My ex boyfriend didn't mind me being on my period at all.
You'll probably find it's a turn off for a lot of men, but some men do actually like it - or don't mind it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): Well it depends on a guy, but i can tell you that majority of guys whould not want to have sex with a woman who got her period. But some men acctualy enjoy it because the woman is way hornier.
For me personaly it doesnt matter. I prefer a bit when she s not on her period, because i like oral sex.
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reader, Abbii_xxx +, writes (16 January 2011):
 well personally i have had sex while on my period.. but it wasnt planned i new i was on my period but i sorted my self out and then jus went with it.. i was jus about to come of tho and honestly i think we both enjoyed it, it was good sex soo i duno it jus depends on wat the guy thinks about it x
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (16 January 2011):
 Well of course its gross, its blood... I don't like it.
But I do like pleasing my girl. In the end that wins out every time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): For me and my fella we dont mind when i'm on my period. It actually great as I had an amazing time with him and it was the first time we had sex in a shower. Its worth taking the risk and my bf had no problem with me bleeding. As long as you shower and dont smell of bad sweat like i do when i am very bad on mine then its ok. just relax and be comfortable and accept your own body and i'm sure your bf will accept your body too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): I'm fine with it... grab a few towels and a wet wash cloth afterward and go for it!
Personally, I do not enjoy going down on a girl at that time of month, but everything else is fine.
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reader, golddigger99 +, writes (16 January 2011):
 I personally don't like it much becasue it becomes messy and makes me self-concious, but my husband loves it. He says that the extra fluid the blood creates makes him more aware of his heightened senses. Not sure if it's true, but he does finish a lot quicker when we have sex this way.
Also, another post says that it makes your cramps go away and the bleeding stop, in fact, for me at least, it's the opposite. My cramps end up being more severe because of the constant strain on my legs and back during sex and the bleeding comes out more heavily because all of the pumping that he is doing.
It's also difficult after sex until your vagina goes back to it's regular size because tampons are just too small to insert after sex, and this leaves you dripping blood all over the place. My advise--talk to your boyfriend and see what he says because it looks like men have different ideas about the issue. You'll never know until you ask.
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reader, II_Seraphim_II +, writes (16 January 2011):
It all depends on the guy. Some guys don't mind, for some it bothers them to no end. Now if this is a brand new person you just met, I wouldn't suggest bringing this up. But if you been together for a while and are completely comfortable with each other you can suggest it or ask him. Worst case scenario he will tell you that he ain't down with that. You really have nothing to lose. It's not like he is going to break up with you or think any less of you because you asked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): I love it, but I don't know many guys or girls that do too. It's a bit taboo, plus lots of people just don't like blood.
Me and my girl love sex on her period and with a dental dam I'll even give her head. I'm not squeamish about blood and never have been and the benefits are very worth it.
We have had some of our best sex when she's on her period. You see most people don't realize the benefits can be immense.
Firstly women are a lot more sensitive down there when they're on their period so her orgasms can be mind blowing and sometimes even the slightest touch can drive her wild (no exaggeration). Secondly penetration while on her period actually lightens her flow and has stopped it plenty of times. Thirdly it relieves her cramps she can get them bad. Finally if she's in a particularly bad mood from it then she'll take all that out on me during sex and yeah that's brilliant. It's a lot of fun to see her go from raging tiger to purring kitten. I mean just imagine you've gone from stressed, bleeding heavily, with with painful cramps to intense orgasm, no flow and no cramps.
Talk to him about it, tell him the benefits and ask him if he would do it for you. It's that easy really, blood is just another bodily fluid, we swap mucus, semen even a bit of urine when we have sex or give head anyway. What's the difference?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 January 2011):
To be honest, not good. I'd feel weird about it. I think other man would too.
As for telling him, my girlfriend said she was on hers once, an I still saw her. No, we didn't have sex, but we had a good time in other ways.
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