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writes:I am 14 years old and a freshman in High School. I'm getting close to this guy who goes to another school and I think he's going to ask me out soon. I like him as well and am excited to get to know him better. My problem is that I'm good friends with my ex (we still get together to do things, talk on the phone and face book and I see him all the time in my school doing school related things). I think I should tell this new guy about my relationship with my ex but I don't know how. I don't want to scare him off but think he should know that my ex a really good friend.
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reader, rebe88 +, writes (17 January 2011):
rebe88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much everyone for the great advice. Things are going to be moving slowly with this new guy since I don't see him a lot but I'm sure the topic of ex's will come up and now I know what to do! I'll keep you posted. Thanks again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): He's not your boyfriend yet so it's not like he'll blame you for talking to a guy or something !
try to get closer to him and if you still do things with your ex you should stop if you really want to be with this new guy !
So get close to him and when you guys fall in love if he asked you something about your ex you'll say oh we're just friends and explain the situation and if he doesn't ask it means he doesn't think it's weird.
See you should never tell him that : oh my ex and I are just friends please don't take me wrong !
and he's not even your boyfriend and he hadnät even asked you about your relationship with him !
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (16 January 2011):
It only becomes as big of a deal as you or him choose to make it. With that said, tell him with his feelings in mind, but don't linger on the topic. If he's curious and asks about why you're still friends, simply tell him that you both enjoy each other's company but in a non-romantic way and leave it at that.
If he is uneasy with it, which isn't too unlikely, be a little more firm with him. Tell him that you two are friends and it won't change. If he wants to accept it or deny it he can choose to do so. You shouldn't have to give up certain people in your life for another. Don't feel its necessary to make things work; think about what you want from this relationship and fit it into your life as it is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): what you dont do is hide anything. if its innocent then you can introduce your boyfriend to your friend. if you cant then dont start a new relationship.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (16 January 2011):
 All you can do is be open and honest and tell him that you are really good freinds with your ex. You will be doing the right thing by telling him, if anything he should be respect you for being open. If he is a decent guy he will be ok with it, but if he isen't then maybe he just isen't for you.
Good luck
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (16 January 2011):
 hi
just tell him casually. don't make a big thing of it. if he accepts it then that's fine. if he doesn't like it let him go because otherwise he may start expecting you to choose between him and your friendship with your ex and i think it would be such a shame to dump a good friend (whether its an ex BF or anyone else) for the sake of a new boyfriend, who may only end up being a short relationship anyway
xx
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