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Archived questions from: October, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

I'm finding it hard to think that the kind, attentive, wonderful man that I fell in love with has disappeared at the moment or even forever.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I'm having problems in my relationship with my boyfriend. We have been going out for 2 1/2 years in an LDR. My boyfriend has been working really hard lately, so much so that I haven't seen him since the end of September whereas we were seeing each ...

He's playing with my head. How can I get over this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5453 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - Once i started back to the life ,back on the track , he got back to me .....why ? i am not going to finish from this story or what ? he broke my heart 3 months ago , he said awful things about me, trashed my reputation he was the happiest...

My ex is a jerk but I still want him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - My ex is a jerk but I sitll want him. Last night he took me to a pub, because he was meeting a guy over there. I told him he could go alone, 'cause I wasn't in the mood for going out. But he begged, so we went. It was all ok, but suddenly he ...

Can anyone help sort out my marriage problems?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5484 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - well!!! hi ... i hurt my wife feelings and i told her we must stop then i got regret , i feel kind of lost i was study in university and i got out of university cant continue anymore and i didnt told anybody till now i feel a shame of my self , iam ...

He only wants me when he can't have me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5506 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - i met a guy about a year ago and he sent me lots of txt messages, tellin me he was in love with me etc, after a couple of months i really got to like him so we went out a few times and then had a month long intense relationship seeing each other ...

Should I disclose why intimacy scares me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - ok, so my question is about being in a successful relationship. i'll admit that ya i'm a virgn and ya i tended to avoid relationships, but the thing is i've had a pretty messed up past. i was abused physically and emotionally and there are some ...

Why do I feel a sense of rejection with her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5505 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - Hi here's my problem -- I feel sick and upset even thinking about the fact that other men have slept with my girlfriend. She is 18 and I am 20. I fell deeply in love with her the day that I met her two years ago, but it took her 5 months to feel t...

I consistently dawged this woman out and I need to make amends!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - Hi, I have a huge issue that I created for myself. FOur years ago I meet the woman of my dreams but at the time I didnt realize it. I didnt realize it until recently. She did everything in her power to please me and because I was so bitter of...

He must think I'm so stupid!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I dont know if i am over reacting but, recently i found on my boyfriends laptop a number of folders of girls pictures which must equal to over 300 pictures of half naked girls etc including my best friends! But he said sorry and that he forgot i...

Why has she gone cold on me suddenly?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5505 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - I met a girl online and we talked for two days and REALLY hit it off, like the best i have initially ever gotten along with a girl we chatted things up and thursday morning i texted her same continued but i had school and she had work so i finished ...

Should I just break up with my boyfriend and live my life?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for just over two years now. We have a good relationship, but I'm no longer sure about if we should be together. The reasons why I doubt the relationship is that he can be really aggressive and (in my opinion) selfish and ...

Should I accept my boyfriend's continued friendship with his ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5505 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Hi, My boyfriend is currently friends with his ex. However, they were NOT friends when we started dating. They dated for 2 or so years, and that was a couple years ago. But when our relationship really started to advance, a few months in, she ...

Feelings hurt...what's next?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5451 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I have been with my partner for 2years and known him for 3-4, recently he did something that really hurt my feelings to the point that I doubted if I wanted to stay together. I love my partner and realize that he did not hurt my feelings ...

My obsession of my b/f's ex has turned into depression, please help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5507 days ago

31 October 2009 (?) - I am glad I have found this site.I have been obsessed with my bf's ex ever since we first started going out. We have been together 10 months now and he moved in with me quickly.I love him very much.This week I have deleted my facebook to stop myself ...

I want her but she doesn't even have feelings for me...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5506 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - Hello, I am 16, and I am in love with one of my close friends. we live about an hour apart by public transportation, and we've only seen each other once. We met about 5 months ago, and she has been hurting me unintentionally for many months now. ...

How can I make her like me again...?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5502 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - I think I'm in love with this girl... problem is, she has a boyfriend. We dated about two months ago, but we broke up... until' she got together with him, we just remained good friends. I told her, tonight, that I was planning on asking her to get ...

Help! I left a 31-year relationship with a woman I could 100% trust, for a relationship that I don't think I can ever trust!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5505 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - hi all this is a long one so here we go,i meet this girl about 16 months ago by the way im 48 shes 45 around the same time i left my wife now ex-my girlfriend isn't exactly the honest type found out she was seeing here old boyfriend behind my back ...

Is he being clingy or am I just not used to a guy like this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5502 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Im loosing patience with my guy of 6 months. I was the one head over heels for him and had to step back cuz he was not ready. well now he is ready, askin me to move in for the last 3 months and i dont the feel the same as i did. He calls me allot...

What do you class as cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - OK, I wanted the aunts views on this.... What would you class as cheating?.... naughty phonecalls, texts, emails, pictures, thinking about someone else, a kiss, or full sexual contact?... My reason for asking is that I checked my bf's emails o...

Should I tell him what happened? I'm leaning towards no.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of a year and I broke up over a month ago and at first we were still sleeping together until I told him it would end up hurting me and we needed to stop. He had been really mean and unappreciative of me during the relationship and he ...

What can I do? I'm desperate!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - i want to make my boyfriend miss me more or as much as i miss him. i also want him to call me more and appreciate that he has a rare girl and he needs to do what it takes to hold on to her. im showing him all that, just not getting it back. please ...

I seem to have no ambition to do anything...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - hey, lately i have been feeling unloved by my boyfriend of 5 years, i know he loves me but sometimes im just not sure. and i have gotten laid off work so im home a lot i never feel like doing anything, its a huge chore to leave the house, i have ...

I can't leave him, he's all I have...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5507 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - my boyfriend and i have been dating for just over a year. We spend every single day at college together. Well, thing is, he always judges me and talks bad to me and hurts me. But i love him and i do so much for him. He wont even try to do something ...

Do you think I've upset or offended her???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5505 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Hey there, last week i asked my best friend out (we're both girls and bi). She's known how i feel about her for about 6 months now, and she said she loved me back, but when i asked her out, she said no. this sort of crushed me and the last week ive ...

My boyfriend still goes to the ex's house to let the dog out!!!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Hello Aunts and Uncles. I'll make this short and to the point but would really appreciate a guys take if possible. My boyfriend (we have been living together for about a year) he still goes to his ex's house (when she's working and yes she is ...

I found out she cheated 2 years ago, now all she does is cry. How do I deal with this?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5503 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Hi Guys, If your partner of 20 years cheated on you just once and you found out by chance would you forgive and forget. She is the love of my life and a great mother. Apparently it happened with a mutual so called friend. I confronted her with thi...

I get jealous when he meets new friends... am I in love with my gay friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5507 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm a girl, 18 years old, I have a best friend and he is a gay.. we are so close to each other as if we treated each other as more than friends and as time goes by I felt something strange, maybe I'm already falling in love with him, he always ...

B/f no longer puts forth effort into the relationship, what to do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Any help would be greatly appreciated: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. We have talked about marriage and for the most part, we get along famously. Here is my delima: He seems angry, distant, and at times bored with...

Help! How can I make things better?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - My fiance and I are extremely happy together and his family is really happy for us, and I get along great with them all except for his father. I am a full time college student and my fiance and I live an hour and a half apart. I see him only on ...

Help! My girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago. I'm sad. Can I do anything to resolve?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5507 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - We have been together for a year and a half. My ex gf and I took a break about 2 months ago because we've been bickering. She's been stressed out at work, school, and dealing with a messed up family. She said she wanted to take some time to be ...

She thinks her ex is innocent and I've had enough!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5502 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Heya, I dont really want to be in this position, but: I am in two minds about my GF speaking to her ex, I've never liked it, and its been hard work for me to let them talk and see each other, they broke up just under a year ago, she says she mis...

Help me with my ex. Should I send her a letter or Just wait to see if she ever call me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - In July 10, 2009 my ex break up with me after more than 2 years of living together in a very good and lovely relation. She was always talking about getting married and has kids; we were even planning of buying a house together. Even 10 days before ...

My girlfriend is accusing me of being unfaithful when I've done nothing wrong...How many accusations should I put up with?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Hi everyone, I've been dating a girl for a little over a month now. She has never been in anything you could call a "serious relationship" before, so the whole thing is new to her. She has been with some nasty guys in the past, so she has some tru...

Can I Do Anything to Resolve?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - My girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago. I'm sad. Can I do anything to resolve? We have been together for a year and a half. My ex gf and I took a break about 2 months ago because we've been bickering. She's been stressed out at work, sch...

Confused...Am I rejected?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - This guy and I have been seeing each other for a few months now. He lives in a different state. At the beginning, he was always messaging me and chasing me and we started getting intimate and had sex about 1 month after. He says he loves having ...

Why wont he make love to me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5491 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - why wont he make love to me? my partner of 3 months wont or cant make love to me. he is 36, im 23 and without sounding pig headed im a good looking slim girl. I never turn him away. when we first met it was every night and day, now when i try to ...

He is always bringing up his former crush in front of me, what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - so... im 15. My boyfriend and I love each other a lot. but my problem is he had a huge crush on this girl before me - for about a year he was obsessed with her - she liked him too, but wasnt ready to date. so, my boyfriend claims hes over her, and ...

Should I be able to discuss difficult issues with my gf without the fear of massive arguments?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5505 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - I would be greatful of your advice. My gf and I have been together for nearly 4 years and have known each other well as close friends for 8 years. I am a communicator and value talking about problems and then negotiating a resolution or agreeing ...

Where do you draw the line between cheating and not cheating when it comes to dancing?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I'm going to ask some... um, shall we say, hypothetical questions here about dancing and whether or not it is "cheating". Hypothetically if you've been with a guy for 4 years or so, and you do these things: 1. Slow dance alone in a room with anot...

I don't feel I cheated, but I was awkwardly busted. Do I explain the situation to him?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Thanks so much in advance for your insight(s). After years of quick flings, NSAs and not-quite-rights, (I'm 47) I all but shut down my sexual activity and adpoted a "been there done that" mentality, I'm recently re-inspired. I believe that ...

I'm not "in love" with my girlfriend, and she's kind of crazy. I'm scared to break up with her, what do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - I have been dating my girlfriend for a year and a half now and I've realized that I'm not "IN" love with her ....we get along great sometimes but most of the time it's real bad fighting and its REAL bad if we've be drinking.... she starts hitting me ...

What is happening in my relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5508 days ago

30 October 2009 (?) - hi i'm having trouble with my relationship i keep pulling away from my boyfriend and i'm always getting angry for no real reason it can be the tiniest thing and i just blow it out of proportion, i want to make it work but i just can't seem to be ...

Is 8 partners too many at my age?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Im 20 and have been having sex since i was 17. i have had 8 partners and when i told my new bf he looked shocked. he said it was becouse im not loose down there. but i feel like he thought that was alot. is 8 partners at my age to many?...

No guy will like me, they all just want sex. I just want to crawl into a black hole and not come out. Can someone help me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5473 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Okay so me and my well now ex have been dating for about a year and a half. I was 16 when I met him and we started dating when I turned 17. I'm 18 now and he's 21. We recently broke up for I don't even remember, but he "joked" that he wants to get ...

Hes a wonderful man but is it possible to find a Prince Charming?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I have been married for just over a year. I constantly think about whether my husband is the right man for me. I was never really sure about him, even when we were dating and engaged. I can't decipher whether this is part of the process, or if I am ...

Can we fix this relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5507 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I have been with this man for a long time. He cheated on me and i cheated on him in the pass. How can we rebuild what we have and moved on with our lives with kids and marriage soon. After the hurt we put each other through with the question. I ...

I really love her but I'm bored and she really gets on my nerves. What can I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - So im an agony aunt new to this website and i need some advice. Ive been in a relationship with my girl for almost four months now and I feel like im bored. I know its not because we spend to much time together because i go to school and work and ...

Should I go through with it or keep him as a friend and nothing more?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5508 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - i was a teachers assistant my whole senior year for this art teacher and he was young looking i always tought he was cute since my sophmore year so i became his t.a because he insisted me to be his t.a. so we would spend allot of time together ...

Who do I chose? He divorced his wife to make me his.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - please help..to make this story short here it goes..i had a relationship with a married man...we parted went our seperate ways painfully he broke it off...he said that i deserved better and that if he got divorced he would come back to me because he ...

Should I beg for a second chance, and hope its all a phase on her part?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5505 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - Im just here to vent. It's prolly obvious that it's over and nothing can be done. I fell in love with this girl years ago... gave her everything I had, planned my future around her, would do anything for her. I looked forward to spending the rest of ...