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anonymous
writes:I dont know if i am over reacting but, recently i found on my boyfriends laptop a number of folders of girls pictures which must equal to over 300 pictures of half naked girls etc including my best friends!But he said sorry and that he forgot it was even there. Yer right.But then again yesterday i found that he's been on his work email and emailed pictures of girls and there myspace picture page url's to his personal email address but obv said they were for his mate, then why not email them to him then?He must think im so stupid since i noticed all of this i've found myself tryin to impress him it makes me feel so sick what should i do ??:(
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reader, mutherh +, writes (1 November 2009):
The only person you should be impressing is - yourself! You deserve better. Move on.
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reader, PixiePie +, writes (31 October 2009):
 LEAVE HIM, LEAVE HIM, LEAVE HIS SORRY ASS!!
you are not stupid, you were unfortunately taken in by a horny lying man, and that happens to the best of us, but in reply to the "stop snooping or find a new boyfriend" answer, yes you should find a new bf but no way on earth can you be judged for snooping when he had that many pics, and some of your friends on there, even if it was a forgotten folder, which is highly unlikely, the fact that it had pics of your friends is a big black NO across your relationship, and that you caught him AGAIN, this is going to break your trust of him even if you still wanted it to go ahead but trust me, you are better off out and finding a guy who worships your body and not 300+ other girls
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reader, fc578  +, writes (31 October 2009):
This guy seems like bad news... you should stay away from him. I think it was generous of you to give him a second chance but it is bad enough that he has those pictures and that he has pictures of your friends. All guys have porn, so whatever, but this is bad. Plus, you should look at the underlying truth that you were a bit suspicious about him in the first place and looked things up. This lack of trust, your lack of self confidence through trying to constantly impress him, and his "collection" do NOT make a healthy relationship. Get out and get out FAST. Respect yourself and find a guy who deserves you and who you do not feel a need to constantly impress! You'll feel great and get a guy who is much better than this sh*t
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reader, tux +, writes (31 October 2009):
 Stop snooping or find a new boyfriend..
A) It is logical that he may have a folder of half naked pics of girls on his pc.. I have tons of folders I never go in and totally forget about and don't even remember what I put in there..
B) His reason may be logical because he is emailing from work which may have rules that you can email yourself, but may frown on sending pics and links to other people..
But well, it could be either way, and you need to figure if you can deal with it and if you can't, then you move on.
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reader, shnookims  +, writes (31 October 2009):
 Do you really have to ask this question? What you should do is one thing but what you might want to do is another and that is your decision entirely.It's pretty obvious that he has no respect for you and is playing you and consistently lying. There is no excuse for having those pictures of your best friends and the fact that he thinks your so stupid as to believe his ludicrous lies should push you to understand that he's not entirely commited to you.You should leave him and after the way he's treating you, you should want that too. Wanting to impress him is not really going to get you anywhere. If you want to try and stay in this relationship, as crazy as that is, you still need to tell him that you know he's lying. Otherwise you won't be happy anyway. You should also probably consider new best friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2009): You don't need to impress him, clearly he's not deserving of you. I agree, it's not likely he's telling the truth about the pictures, or the girls 'for his mate'. I think that if he can't be honest with you and has been doing this, then you should leave him. He's blown his chances.
Find someone who will respect your relationship and be honest with you about things. I'm sorry this happened, but I hope things work out in the end.
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