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Archived questions from: 17 October, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Emotionally unavailable man driving me crazy!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - Awhile back I made the mistake of starting a relationship with a totally emotionally unavailable man. I say this because 1)He hardly had any free time because of his work and late shifts(this I checked is true) 2)He is a relationship phobic. He ...

Why is it that every time I say I am leaving a violent, short tempered, manipulative man I end up wondering why he hasn't called?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5520 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - I have a question to ask..why is it that every time I say I am leaving a violent short tempered manipulative man I end up wondering why he hasn't called. I know this man is no good for me especially cuz I have 2 boys ages 8 and 15. I feel like I ...

How can I learn to get over my past and trust a new person?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

17 October 2009 (M) - I have been searching for answers for sometime and haven't found anywhere to turn to for help. I hope you can offer some advise to a man after a divorce. There are soo many places for women to go but not men. I was married for 9 years with 3 kids. ...

My boyfriend thinks it's okay to do things to me I don't like. What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5498 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - I have a bit of a problem with my boyfriend. He constantly doesn't do things i ask of him. For e.g He will call me chubby (like a pet name as such) and i tell him i dont like it, its offensive and it's putting me down (i'm not chubby at all, ...

How can I change my boyfriend overreacting to small things?

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17 October 2009 (F) - I am recently in a relationship with a great guy and have been dating for the past 2 months. He treats me right, talks to me everyday and constantly tells me he cares for me. The only problem is that little things keep popping up. He seems to ...

Am I being too close minded?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - Hello. Ok here is my issue. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. In the beginning he was cheating on me all the time and I was really hurt by it so I found myself a lover and everytime I knew my boyfriend was cheating on me , I ...

Is he making me jealous because I told him I am a virgin...does he still want a relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - This is my situation: A guy told me he was interested in me on out first date and afterwards we went out on some dates. The guy is very nice to me. He is also shy when he is with me but he is not shy when he talks to other girls. He has difficult to ...

My mother is ruining my relationship...what can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - ever since i remember, my mother was in charge of everything. i'm also the youngest one, so i know she's trying to protect me and doesnt want me to get hurt. but that's the problem. i'm 20 and i have a boyfriend for three years now. she knows him ...

After 8 yrs and all this I don't know what to do anymore, any help please? I don't want to lose her.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5520 days ago

17 October 2009 (M) - ok she broke up with me afew weeks ago and yeah its been hard.we finally stated some what talikng and texting after she wouldnt answer me for awhile before.but i think i went to far we where together for 8 years and i just dont want to let go.i ...

Am I going to resent him for all my suffering? I cheated.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - After 10 yrs and three children, I cheated on my fiance. I dont know how to make him understand that I was going through some serious emotional problems. He feels that I fell inlove with the man, and although some actions gear towards that ...

I didn't know that I was the "other woman"

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - Hi I'm hoping someone can give me some advice. 18 months ago I started seeing this guy, it wasn't meant to be anything serious, we only saw each other once every couple of weeks. However, after about 6-8 months I started to fall in love with him...

Does neck and full on kissing mean more?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - Hi everyone and please dont have a moan at me for writing this but im in a very confused mind at the moment, basically i still talk to y ex bf who has a gf, they are not getting on and bascically one day this week we slept together, we have done it ...

Why was my girlfriend angry with me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

17 October 2009 (M) - Last night my girlffriend was annoyed with me and continued berating me even after we had gone to bed. In short she was angry with me for not contacting her as soon as I arrived home. The background goes like this. I work full time and have ear...

Is she just punishing me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

17 October 2009 (M) - I met my girl friend on july 19th 2008, when we met i was seperated for 6 months and i was getting divorced and had no kids. After a month when I realized how much I realy liked her i told her i had to tell her something we met and I told her i had ...

He meets his psycho ex secretly, should I be concerned?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - I have been with my sig other for almost 2 year, but he still keeps in contact with his ex girlfried. I am okay with ex's being friends, bit this person is a bit of a bunny boiler. e.g. she sends "i love you" messages to him via text (she is a ...

Is this my fault for being too weak?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - My boyfiriend of almost 2 years is for the most part a sweet heart. But When he is upset with me, ne treats me like crap, he blows me off when I apologize or try to make it up to him. He hangs up or yells at me when I ask him what's really bothering ...

Flirting/chatting-how much is too much?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

17 October 2009 (M) - Okay the background. I've been married to my wife for 8 years, we've been together for 10. We also work on the same floor at the same employer. Last few years have been rough- we seem to live in our own separate worlds. I'll admit- some of our a...

Once an abuser, always an abuser??

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - My ex bf abused me and now he wants me back. He promises hes changed and so on. He says he regrets it and would do anything for me. He admits to be an idiot. He says he loves me- something he never told me when we were in a relationship. He says we ...

How do I tell him to stop using me for sex?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5499 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - I started seeing this guy for a couple of months. It turned into a him calling me late at night to come over (ending up having sex every time). I didn't want that kind of relationship but i did so bc i liked him a lot. I tried to talk to him abou...

Are these actions normal for a man almost 30 yrs old?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 3574 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend (29) and I (25) were really enjoying having sex the other night and when he wanted to have anal sex I said no because I knew that my stomach was not up for it. He knows that I really do not like it yet I have promised to continue doing ...

Should I confide in my teacher about my problems at home?

This question has 30 answers - newest was posted 5417 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - Alright so for the past couple years I've been having trouble at home with my dad and fights every couple of weeks would either result in me getting kicked out for a couple of weeks or me leaving my house for a couple of weeks. Now somehow 3 of my ...