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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of a year and I broke up over a month ago and at first we were still sleeping together until I told him it would end up hurting me and we needed to stop. He had been really mean and unappreciative of me during the relationship and he was so mean to me for the month after it ended. I ended up visiting an old boyfriend and things happened, we slept together, and it wasn't as special or anything and I immediately regretted it, but it was something I thought would make me happy.A week or so after this happened my ex started saying he wants me back, saying that he's sorry for how he treated me, saying that he loves me, etc. and it really hurts that he didn't say these things when i needed to hear them - during our relationship and after we broke up. Should I tell him about what happened? I'm leaning towards no. I would understand and forgive him if the situation were reversed, but that's one of the ways he and I differ.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to everyone :)
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reader, MinnieM  +, writes (31 October 2009):
Instead of wondering if you should tell him or not try asking yourself what kind of relationship you would like to have with anyone you are involved with? Is it one where you can feel free to discuss anything with a partner & feel that they will listen and talk things through with you? Or is it one where you want to feel that you have to be guarded & keep things to yourself?
No contest in my book!
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