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Archived questions from: 11 October, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

How do I get my girlfriend to initiate physical contact?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - Ok, wow....so I just typed and submitted an entire ''question,'' all for it to tell me i wasn't logged in when i had already logged in....uuugh! So, I will make this one much more brief and as to the point as I can! I am almost 31, a single ...

How do I get my boyfriend to open up to me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5526 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend I think defiantly loves me. We've been together for a year and...4 months. He says he's not an emotional person, however I think he really is, he can be very needy and its fine by me because I can be too. We're really good alone but as ...

Having problems with my girlfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5414 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - For the last several weeks, every friday I ask my girlfriend of 5 months, if she wants to hang out after school, and each time she says yes. so i go home, get all my important stuff done, and then return home to get ready and change. after all of ...

I have been with this guy four years and he lies about talking to his ex! What should I do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - please help. I have been with my guy for about 4 years now. the problem is he is still very much in contact with his ex who he was only with for a year! he has met up with her behind my back and they are always txting and calling eachother.. he l...

What happened and why is it so hard to move on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years . I have had a lot of loss over the last 4 years which caused me not to be in a relationship for a longtime . I felt all these years of being alone and I mean alone I didnt go out at all or date ...

I am not sure if I really screwed it up this time or what! What should I do

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I met this guy in May, we went on a couple of dates and made out, and had some good chats on msn, and emailed me when i left the country to study. he said he wasn't ready for a GF, and btw he was the one who suggested the girlfriend thing. But we ...

My ex is confusing me! What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - me and my ex broke up a couple months ago after she cheated on me with the same guy she left to be with me. Over time I forgave her and tried to be friends. We would text each other every now and then. A few weeks ago she texts me and says she made ...

She won't acknowledge our past and wants me to be friends with her new guy!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - Who is being selfish here? "Jane" and I have been friends for about 5 years now, but for the first 15 months or so it was something more than that. Now, going forward, she wants to disacknowledge there being any history between us to any new people ...

I am cheating and want to be with my lover but it seems like he is backing off!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

11 October 2009 (?) - I am a 38 yr old women. I have been married for 18 yrs now, I have been seeing someone that is 9 yrs younger than me. I am so in love with this guy. He has shown me how I should really be loved. Just recently he told me that he loves me but he can't ...

My husband had an emotional affair and I can't get past it! Please help!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5503 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Please help. My husband had a non sexual (I think I believe this} 'affair' with a work colleague during which time they got very emotionally close (I was being very unloving to him at the time although he never stopped showing he loved and fancied ...

My friend says she wants to talk, but when I call or email she takes too long to respond!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5526 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - My friend (who I would love to make my girlfriend) and I have a great relationship. However it is long distance and we can't see each other as often we'd like. Communication has been good. We email each other regularly and when we didn't, we call ...

How can my fiance get along with his boss?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - My fiance told me he's unhappy going into work. Not because of worries about whether he's got a job - he re-signed his contract in May for another 3 years. He works for a data storage company, and has done for the past 5 years. Instead it's h...

What do you think is going on in her mind?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - I had been seeing my girlfriend for 2 years - we broke up in April of this year - I suspected that she had been meeting with someone else for a while - as things hadnt been good for a while - she seemed to be trying to cause an argument all the time ...

I met my son's coach and I knew instantly there was somthing between us! Please help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I really dont know what to do. My son went to a camp and i met his coach and i know instantley there was somthing.....really wierd feeling. I added him on a website and after a few months he actually began a cunversation with me....to my surprise we ...

How do I move forward in a positive way after divorcing a sex addict?.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I want to know how to move forward without guilt after divorcing my husband of 20 years because of a sex addiction he had. I want to feel less guilt that I ended the relationship even though he wanted to work on it and try. He is still in ...

Is my first love just a long distance booty call?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5526 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - long story put very short.. he went to college 7 hours away. I stayed back in another college . now everytime he comes he always wants to hangout with me and we end up saying some stuff like we miss eachother we love eachother etc. but I can't help ...

How can we marry when his parents hate me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I bet you've heard this one before: His parents don't like me. However, my case is VERY different. Here's how: Me and my boyfriend of 1 year and a half live in the U.S. And his parents live in Eastern Europe. So far I've tried everything to make ...

How can I get her to take my calls without fake blackmailing her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - After breakup i called her my ex-girlfriend last night. we talked for hours. i got her taking my call by blackmailed her that i would call her dad that she was having affair with me for years. when i tried to take my call being nice with her she ...

Should I take A break from my long term Relationship to explore options or not??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5517 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Please help! I been with my mate for goin on 6 years and everything has always been ok. to my knowledge he had never cheated on thats what i believe. and we have had some rocky times in our relationship where he may have slipped up and or I slipped ...

I broke up with him because he is a mama's boy, but now I want him back!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5527 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - please help! I am so confuse now. I been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we love each other so much.(I mean I do love him so much). But I broke up with him yesterday.We live in Puerto Rico and yesterday I move back in Arizona with my parents.But I ...

Am I being abused?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I recently broke up with my boyfriend. Things in the relationship were fine at first but then he started acting very strange. He started getting very jealous whenever I would hang out with male friends but said that it was because he was afraid of ...

She tells me she loves me and I love her too, but lack of affection and sex is really getting to me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - So I have been going out with my girlfriend for a year and 9 months. We are both 20 and are in college. The relationship started great, we used to spend alot of time together, sex was offered/given/recieved a hefty amount, and we both lost our ...

How can she be so loving and say she wants me, for certain, in her life, then put up a wall?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I are trying to get back together after having a serious fight. On Monday, she came out to visit me. We haven't made love in almost two months, but we have been communicating beautifully, were affectionate, told each other how much ...

What can I do to feel a spark and passion again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I'm in a 6year lesbian relationship and I have an 8yr old from a previous relationship... we also have a 7month which we conceived with infertiltiy treatment... I love being a family but I'm bored and my feeling are not as strong as before.. what ...

Do I pretend everything is okay and continue to put effort into the relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5505 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of 4.5 years isn't sure what he wants. He tells me he loves me dearly but isn't sure if I am the "one" and he is afraid to break up to only realize he made a big mistake but he isn't sure if he's done being a "young single guy". I am ...

How do I dump him?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4867 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I've been with this guy since October 28th, 2007. Our 2 year anniversary is coming up here shortly, but I find myself not being in love with him anymore. I'll try to make this as short as I can. He was in the Army when I met him, but he hadn...

He broke it off with me and went back to his wife. Now he is trying to get back with me again!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - My fellow left his wife x 2 months, then he went back to her didn't call me for 9 days then started calling with the excuse he wanted to check on me see if I was all right - when he left it was clear he was letting me go sat at my table and said so ...

Why do I find it so hard to sustain relationships?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Why do I find it so hard to sustain relationships? I have been with a man I have known for over 20 years but relationship for 9 and we can not move the relationship on. I want to get married. I have three children. One of his. But we do not ...

I don't know if he really wants a relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5526 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Hi, sorry for my bad typing.... I met a guy in the city where i live but he lives 400 miles away from me we visit each other once a month, he introduced me to his family at the first month that i met him not the whole family but his mother and his ...

This just isn't the lifestyle for me... I feel trapped!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5527 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - I'm 26 years old and identify myself as a bisexual male. For a couple of years now I have been engaging in relationships with men while still retaining my attraction to and even longing to be with women. More and more I have been feeling trapped ...

This has been the worst mistake of my life! What do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5527 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I cheated on my boyfriend of 5 months, with his older brother's best friend who is 4 years older than me. I lost my virginity to this guy when I was drunk (and it was my first time drinking), but I really want to stay with my boyfriend. This is the ...