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writes:hi all this is a long one so here we go,i meet this girl about 16 months ago by the way im 48 shes 45 around the same time i left my wife now ex-my girlfriend isn't exactly the honest type found out she was seeing here old boyfriend behind my back for a while 4 months or sowe moved into my brothers home for a short while came home early one day well brother was enjoy girlfriendi have now bought an old house and she now lives with me most of the times I do trust her a little more again but that is fadding fast she still goes back to here kids and the ex for 2--3 days at a time even if i ask here to call half the time she wont or doesn't remember--she has a slow learning disability i love her with all my heart but i think she will never comitte to this relationship-- she left her family once already to move in with her first boyfriend that didnt work out he treated here like an ass hole--i will try to tie this up quick sorry.If i ask here to move in with me she will say no'she could be anywhere with anyone at anytime and i would know i think that is not fair in a relationship -so what do i do i left a 31 yr relationship with a wemon that i could 100% trust to a relationship that i dont think i can ever trust i could go on and on but i will stop for now thank you[Moderator's note: Feel free to always add any more relevant details that you consider necessary for a better understanment of your question, thank you.]
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents  +, writes (2 November 2009):
 Wow, you really messed up. Well, you don't need another poster telling you that, because I think by now you've already realized it. Thirty one years with a woman you can trust 100%. What on earth possessed you to EVER in a million years and thousand life times, to give that up? Please give us more details on why you left, so we can understand. If we can understand, then maybe we can tell you something more comforting and constructive, than just "You really messed up" which you already know you did.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (31 October 2009):
 well there you go, seems the fact you could trust your wife 100% didnt really mean much to you did it, if you could walk away from a 31 year relationship into, um, what exactly?Is it too late to crawl back to your wife on your belly and ask for forgiveness and for you to spend the rest of your life trying to atone for what you have done. Personally, if she were me it would be, but its worth giving it a try, because where your life is heading without her is straight down the gurgler unless you can start using the brains God gave you and get out of this destructive relationship and start to rebuild your life.You stuffed up in a mighty way and now its time for you to do your best unstuffing it!
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reader, Ck1  +, writes (31 October 2009):
alot of people leave there wifes and long term relationships because they think aw i could have great sex and fun with this girl. alot of them dont think on loyality or trust issues to follow. Like the grass is greener on the other side (most men). Well youve just found its not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2009): Ever heard of Karma? Typical case of the grass is greener syndrome. You are simply reaping what you sow.
I already know that you are not going to like my answer. Just to be honest, the posters on this sight isn't/doesn't hold this type of behavior in high regard.
I don't know the reasoning for you leaving your wife, you didn't indicate. But from the little I gather, you had complete trust in your wife. Trust is extremely high on the list. Without it, rarely do a relationship/marriage survive.
I don't know what truly went down in your marriage, but from reading your post, you probably was doing the same to your wife and you are just getting payback. Doesn't feel good does it? Life is a funny thing. It always give you the opportunity to feel the pain that we inflict on others in some form or fashion.
You are going to get nowhere with your new girlfriend. Your best bet is to crawl back to your wife on your hands and needs and beg for forgiveness. She may or may not take you back. (If she was smart, she wouldn't). Buddy you have long hard days ahead if you decide to stay. Best of luck.
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