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writes:I have been dating my girlfriend for a year and a half now and I've realized that I'm not "IN" love with her ....we get along great sometimes but most of the time it's real bad fighting and its REAL bad if we've be drinking.... she starts hitting me and sh*t and i just take it in hopes that it will clear over in the morning.... I really want to break up with her but don't know how because we live together and she is REALLY clingy and I work a job that leaves me out of town 2-3 nights a week in a hotel by myself, so every minute i'm home she expects me to sit around the house and hang out with her, and she doesn't respect that I have hobbies I have limited time to do, therefore leads to arguments... she's not crazy (I hope)well maybe a little, but I'm afraid that if I just break it off she will try to make my life a living hell (did one time already 6 months ago) and if i were to to meet someone else she would interfer and try to not let it happen ... she's a beautiful girl and could have just about any man she wants but she swears up and down all she wants is me and wants to spend everylast minute with me.... it may just be me but I need a little time to myself sometimes... anyways what the heck do I do???? Reply to this Question
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reader, LyonHart +, writes (30 October 2009):
 Listen pal, if you really just have to break up with her and are afraid of getting the snot kicked out of you, then you really are in quite a situation. I think, from personal experience, what you should do is spend as much time as possible with her to keep her happy with you, then let her down as easily as is humanly possible and maybe set her up a date with a guy like yourself. An alternate method would be to again spend time with her to keep her happy then let her down as easily as it is possible for a mortal to do, but instead ask her if she wants to remain friends so she can still hang with you. Theres a problem with the second one if you never want to see her again.
Well good luck buddy
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (30 October 2009):
 So she assaults you but you still think she's beautiful? I'm confused. That's called being a bully, and bullies are ugly no matter what they look like on the outside. You aren't helping her with her,(obvious), emotional problems by taking her crap, you're actually making it worse by letting her believe that she can carry on like a stuck pig and still be 'lovable'. She needs you to dump her and make no bones about why you're doing it. You'll be doing her a favour in the long run. Getting rid of a psycho is scary, just the thought of what's going to happen when you tell them is enough to make you want to run away and hide from the task. But, the thing about most people trapped in that headspace is that when they're faced with rejection because of their behaviour they usually crumple into a heap and go into begging and pleading mode. If you're living with her then that makes it a bit more sticky, you need to find somewhere else to live temporarily before you break the news. And when you do break the news you need to make it clear that if she tries to interfere in your life in any way, you'll get an intervention order, (or whatever the US equivalent is). Good luck :)
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reader, duce00 +, writes (30 October 2009):
 Sounds like a handful bro. You are gonna end up crazy if stay, pure and simple. Do what you have to do for your sanity and let go of the co-dependent drama. It will be tough initially no BSing about it, but she will do what they all do, move on to the next lucky guy.
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