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Archived questions from: 5 October, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

So much drama with this girl...is it worth it?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5491 days ago

5 October 2009 (M) - I know this looks long but the question is short. 2/3 of it is just part of the argument we had that id like you guys to weigh in on. This is kinda a follow-up to my earlier question: http://www.dearcupid.org/quest...

Like her, but don't want to be hurt anymore. What can I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5532 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - My ex and I broke up one month ago after she told me that she has feeling for someone else. We became best friends 6 years ago and were best friends for 3 years of high school, then she confessed her feelings for me. It was a turbulent time for me ...

Is is possible to build trust in a relationship again?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - My husband and I have been together for almost 20 years. Recently, I came to discover he likes porn a whole lot more than I realized. He looks at way more online porn than I am comfortable with. I also found out that he was having "chats" online ...

She's just not that into me and should I forget it!!!

This question has 25 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

5 October 2009 (M) - Hi :) I've been seeing the lady for 5 months now. She is 41, 2 kids separated for 3 years and her life is upside down - no job, bankrupt and mentally exhausted but an amazing women. She is trying to get out of it and probably will but who knows. I...

Am so used to being used and mistreated, it's what I look for now in a relationship! How do I end the cycle?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

5 October 2009 (M) - Is there something wrong with me? Has this really changed me? I was in a bad relationship where I was lied and cheated on. I forgave her and it just never got better. Things ended kind of with occasional relapses in hanging out. I absolutely was ...

He shaved his pubic hair when I asked him not to!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5261 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - So today is a very sad day for me. I've been with my boyfriend for over 3 years and he's been talking about shaving his pubic hair for a while. Well, today he did it! Why why why? He just came home from work ate dinner and did it while i was ...

Is he ever going to use his full potential?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year now, and we clicked immediately. It went smoothly for the longest time, but I questioned weather he was over his ex or not. Now, I think he is mostly over her, but I still question it occasionally. ...

She wont let him see his baby if he stays with me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - my boyfriend's ex recently gave birth to his baby and now she wants to get back with him. hes told her hes staying with me, but shes saying that as long as were together he cant see his baby!. ive stressed my opinion on how this unfair for both my ...

I've let my insecurities get the better of me and just stuff everything up...

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5500 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - I don't know what to do.. i feel as though my relationship, more myself has gone off track by a mile. I have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years and am 19 and in the past year have become overly obsessive and insecure. i really don't kno...

I'm trying to be respectful of her request for space but I feel like I've lost the only thing that matters to me

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5 October 2009 (M) - I have been dating the most wonderful woman in the world for the past 10 months. She and I have always told each other that we see the other as our one true soul mate, and we often talk about getting married and spending our lives together forever ...

My boyfriend slept with someone else out of the blue; why would he do this?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5517 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of over 2 and a half years has slept with someone else. He came to mine on Saturday, we had great sex, then went to the fair then for a lovely meal. He then went to a friend in London's housewarming party, coming back the next da...

I cant seem to balance my relationship and my friends so I broke up with him but I still love him!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4840 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years about 2 months ago. I did it because I cant seem to balance my friends and him at the same time. He doesnt understand why I need anyone else but him. The last 2 months have been hell for me. Ive missed him so ...

How likely is it that he will stop wanting to see me because I need to lose a few pounds?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - I've been dating this guy for about 2.5 months. Last night I was at his house and we were messing around and he started to undress me. Just before we started dating I gained about 10 lbs, and even though I know my weight/body is average, I'm very ...

I was doing so well getting over him but all my hard work has been undone

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - 2 years ago i fell in love, it was amazing, i had never met anyone like him,. everyone said we made the perfect couple, and we were so happy. we went out for a year, but towards the last month he said that it was going to quick, he was too young ...

I feel so scared and alone, the one good thing in my life has gone!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5531 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - I think this has been long overdue and I'm not even sure I know how to express exactly how i'm feeling in one question, but I have to try. I'm almost eighteen now and I really feel like i've hit an all time low, rock bottom you might say. I kn...

Alone and pregnant while the father of the baby is out drinking every weekend sleeping with other women!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - Im ten weeks pregnant. Im not in a relationship with the father, I was seeing him for a short while but it was never serious. However, he is happy about it and says he will support me and the child. I know he will be a good dad. The only thing that ...

My relationship is suffering because of depression.. can someone help me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

5 October 2009 (M) - Hi...sorry for the long message but I really need to talk to someone and would really appreciate it if someone would just listen... I’ve been suffering from depression for a while now. it never was a constant thing. I’d be my normal, fun loving s...

This married man has really got me confused big time.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5525 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - No moral judgements please it's to late for that. 30yrs ago i met a married man we had a 3yr affair,i moved away that ended it. now 6yrs ago we catch up again and we have started this all over again,he is still married i am not,the thing is i have a...

Should I just end it and focus on my career, or will I be giving up a nice guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

5 October 2009 (M) - So I did something I thought I'd never do. I've met someone on an online gay dating site, I never thought I would but I did. I spoke to him online for a good month and a bit before i got the confidence to actually meet him, as ive never really don...

Are either of us looking for more than friendship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5532 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - broke up with my boyfriend about 6 months ago. We lived together and it ended badly. It hurt a lot for both of us and he went away to France with work so we never spoke to each other. On Friday I had to e-mail him to say his post was still coming, ...

Each time our relationship gets a bit rocky we cheat on each other! Is it worth trying to save this relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - me and my boyfriend have been together for a while we go through basic relationship problems he cheats but i cheat as well. but now it seems like it is more than that i feel like he care for everyone else but me, i feel like i don't matter anymore ...

She just won't talk!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

5 October 2009 (M) - I've been with my girl for a year now and I am so frustrated. The intimacy was great for the first of our relationship but has now gone completely absent on her end. I started noticing it about 4 months into it but did not think anything of it be...

There are too many obstacles in the way of being together, but do you think he still loves me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - Well I met this guy through one of my friends in London, it was her cousin. when I was about 16. He was sooo cute looking ... I just knew he was the one. We were both very shy so we didn't verbally talk to each other as in face to face or phone we ...

Should I stay with her or not?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

5 October 2009 (M) - Ok I got a question for you guys. I really dont have anywhere else to turn to, so I'll try here. A couple of months ago my girlfriend and I bought a pet from this guy. Few months later I saw a friend on her MySpace page that had only her as a ...

I do everything to care for my fiance and her best friend, but she won't care for me

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5 October 2009 (M) - If I am living with my fiance and we have a child together, and we both live with my fiance's bestfriend (a gay man) whom she has lived with for years before I met her. I saw these two get evicted twice, I moved them, I payed for the moves, rent, ...

I am too scared to leave him for fear of what he might do!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - I have so many troubles about my current boyfriend.For 2 years,I was taking good care of him.He didn't have work and no proper place to live.I was paying his rent and buying his groceries,giving him money for his fare everyday to look for job.I end ...

I need words of wisdom. I'm a girl in a dark place...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5533 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - I think all my problems start with the vivid memories of my childhood. I remember I must of been only four, I was pounding on the door, screaming for my mother and when the door opened, another woman was standing there - naked. It must of took us ...

Why is he suddenly acting so cruel?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5370 days ago

5 October 2009 (?) - Just want to know why guys do this!! After a long term relationship in which we were completely in love and going to get married, he calls off the relationship out of the blue. Cheating and abuse of any kind were not involved. He cries and su...

Suggestions on a hateful daughter?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5526 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - I have a daughter age 36, she is has become so hateful, mean and arrogant and eccentric I don't even know who she is anymore. Over the past 10 yrs she has taken Zoloft and I truly believe it is changing her personality. She explodes in anger for ...

Does he think so little of me that he doesn't even want to see if I'm okay?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

5 October 2009 (F) - i feel sooo stupid. my ex added me to his facebook but i couldnt take looking at his wedding pictures etc so i deleted the link. i became very depressed because i still had feelings for him so stupidly readded him. we had a bad split so althoug...