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writes:I have been with this man for a long time. He cheated on me and i cheated on him in the pass. How can we rebuild what we have and moved on with our lives with kids and marriage soon. After the hurt we put each other through with the question. I promise that i will not step outside of our relatiomship again. But do u think that he will. And i am now having his child.
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (30 October 2009):
 The quality of a relationship, as I've said before, is not determined by how long you've been together, how many children you have or how many things you have in common. It is determined by how well you can work as a team to overcome obstacles.
You BOTH must make a commitment everyday to keep the relationship strong and healthy. Everyday you must wake up and CHOOSE to love the other person. You must both TRUST that the other will be true to their word. Push doubts from your mind and be happy with each other. Openly communicate your appreciation for things the other has done or been willing to do, even if it seems a small task.
Do not punish each other for past sins, and do not punish yourselves. You're both guilty and you're both sorry and you both want it to work. It is time for a fresh start. Make an effort to allow yourselves adult time as a couple even as you are parents.
It will take effort, compromise and creativity, but it CAN happen if you BOTH do the same work. In the end, it could be BETTER than what you had before.
Good luck.
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