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41-50,
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writes:I had a situation some years ago, I really loved this guy before and he kept lying to me that he was forced into a marriage but he really loved me, and I was stupid to believe him...So at the time my cousin and his wife were not married then..they were having problems and were going to break up, so I thought my cousin was being mean to her so I was mad at him and was on her side..So Iater they got better, I thought I could trust her so I told her about my situation, at first it seemed like she was on my side..saying how bad he is and stuff like that...she even added him twice in those online networking sites, then now recently because of her job she has to go to his work place almost every day, and she's always taking the initiative to talk to him. In front of my parents and her parent in laws which is my uncle and aunty she would tell them that how bad he is and pretend that she cares for me a lot, but on the other hand she talks to him like they are good friends, basically they don't even know each other, but started talking because of me, which doesn't really make sense either.I believe her motive is to try to make me jealous, I honestly don't care that they talk, but I just don't like how in front of my parents and her husband and in laws she acts like she really cares about my situation and talks like she dislikes him so much but in another way she goes out of her way to talk to him like they're good friends, I haven't told her any more details about our situation before because of her behavior, she would come online not even say hi and just ask me some question about him, i would answer then she would go offline right after she gets her answer, after that I never answered anymore questions she asked about him.Then I think she told my uncle and aunty that I don't really like her because I'm not answering her or i'm ignoring her or something, because every time I see my aunt she's always trying to add unnecessary comments about her saying how nice she is towards me....So basically she pretends to be a really nice and sweet girl in front of everybody and they don't know all this stuff, but when she privately talks to me and is rude of course she won't mention that stuff to them, but she just tells them I'm the bad person that doesn't like her, but they just don't know all the stuff she does underneath...I just know what to do with her, all I have been doing is just trying to kill her with kindness but doesn't seem to work, because she pretends to be nice also. I don't even talk to that guy anymore and she knows that, but she is still going out of her way to talk to him to make me jealous? I don't know, and plus she's trying to make me look bad in front of my family...I just think this really sucks because I felt bad for her before and I really wanted to help her and I guess I did since she and my cousin are married now, and now she is treating me like this...I don't really get the point of her motive, me and that guy are over and she is trying to make a connection with him, they're work doesn't really involve connection with each other, so there really isn't a reason they need to talk for work purposes, if she really cared about me or the situation she wouldn't be doing any of these things, is that right?Sorry I was rambling..but would appreciate some answers .
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