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writes: I live with a guy for almost a year we have had are share of troubles. At first he said he didnt love me but he has grow to love me but we never have sex maybe once a month but he always wants me to give him oral sex everyday while he watchs porn. I have needs and when I tell him he might give me sex little for three mins no passion no kissing I cant take it anymore
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): Don't waste your time with this man anymore! can you imagine being married to him for the rest of your life? He is a selfish lover who is not willing to meet your sexual needs but demands that you meet his. I say leave him and find someone else who actually cares about your needs. I hate it when men watch porn! I caught my man watching and wanking whilst watching a couple of weeks ago. I felt a sense of betrayal. I felt like he was cheating on me with the porn star he was watching....some men are just pigs!!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (2 July 2009):
 So the relationship has never been good and yet you keep on trying hoping...Any supressed desires to charge at windmills? Carry water to the ocean? Sell ice to the north pole?Lost causes are sometimes just that. Lost.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): Hi,
You need to get out of this relationship while you can. If the guy has no interest in your needs you are better off without him. You will die young if you put up with this any longer. It is essential for a relationship that both partners have an interest in the sexual joy of the other. I was married to a smart wonderful guy, but his idea of satisfying me was squeezing my elbow and patting me on the head. I wanted to be rational by thinking that sex is not an important part of a relationship. I found many creative outlets and masturbating was quick and easy, but as time went on this horrid abysmal void started developing into depression and despair.
Hugs!
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reader, Chippy2 +, writes (2 July 2009):
Dump him - I agree - he doesnt care about YOU at all you are a means to his end - his sex addiction to oral and porn.
You deserve to be treated better than that - The fact that there is no emotion is sad. He said he didnt love you.
How do you know he has fallen in love with YOU. He has fallen in love with what you DO.
Get out of there and when you start a new relationship know that meeting each others sexual needs and curiousity are an important part of a relationship - it is never to be one-sided. That is abuse.
Good luck
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reader, TheAgonyAunt  +, writes (2 July 2009):
 It sounds like he wants all the benefits in this relationship and doesn't want to give any in return.
My advice is to dump him, and find someone who loves you from the beginning and is willing to do anything (within reason!) for you.
:)
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reader, citic101  +, writes (2 July 2009):
 Dump him , sounds like he doesnt love you that much.
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