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writes:I'm 21 years old and met my ex-boyfriend working. A few months after dating he became a monster i was living with him because i was going through some financial problems. He became very physical with me and i ended up leaving him going to Georgia with my aunt. He ended up talking me back into coming back to alabama back home and i did. He turned my aunt against me when we went back to visit making here think he was a good man when really he was giving me hell. When we returned to alabama he became violent again and tried to put me in a mental hospital. My family here in alabama came to get me and informed them that he had been abusive to me. That day i moved out of our home. I found out i was 5 weeks pregnant with his child two weeks later. I went to meet with him to tell him the news and he acted normal and excited at first then he started to flip out like he had done before. My family came right to my rescue and he took off. I haven't heard from him in nearly 3 weeks now I have no money,lost my job and my car and i live with my relatives.It hurts me so bad that i can't even afford to buy prenatal vitamins for my pregnancy and i'm really trying really hard.What should i do?
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (2 July 2009):
 I know your going through a bad time but at least your family are on your side. Build on that and accept as much help and support from them as you can, because your going to need it now you are going to become a mother. Your ex sounds like he needs psychiatric help. I would cut your ties with him and just focus on your pregnancy and finding a job to tide you over.
If you return to your ex then his behaviour will undoubtably get worse and worse and that will be a disaster for you and your child. It also might damage relations with your family and you really need their love and support right now.
Things will get better although you may be in for a bumpy ride, the last thing on earth that you need right now is an abusive violent unstable partner, you have enough to cope with so stay away from him and try to keep it that way.
Life gets messy and complicated for most of us at some point, it's how you deal with things that makes the difference to how you survive them. Be rational, prioritise your needs and work on those and life will get better for you.
Best of luck to you and I hope you do the right thing.
Also if you cant afford vitamins, just make sure you eat a balanced diet and get plenty of rest.
Aunty Em xxx
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