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writes:ok now this may sound really selfish on my behalf but its driving me crazy.first off i think you should know some things about me, i not exactly what you would call social, if i can i will never leave the house i really hate the outside world, from this however my main cause of social intereaction with people that are not my close personal friends has been chatting online using msn.i am curently about to enter sixth form (year 12) at my school and this girl is about to enter year 11.im currently single and have been a while but that isnt the point.it all started about a year ago, i not exactly sure why but this girl who we'll call natalie started hanging out (at school) with my friends. now i think to myself no biggy she wont bother me lets just move on. how ever it didnt stop there. i noticed this but i dont hink any one else did. natalie stoped hanging around with people in her year group. now after a while this some how shifted to her only hanging out with ME and my close friends.im not imagining things here, people have actualy told me that when im not around natalie asks where i am. i want to make this very clear, i have done nothing at all to lead her on, i barely even talked to her, infact at this point i barely know her name, so as i do with a lot of people i nickname her, the british lady, dont know why sounded good and i could remember it.so around this point she gets my msn email and at first its ok its innocent, about one evry two days she would message me ask me how im doing. now at this point i am in a really dark place in my life and i know she has a crush on me so i very rudely spend a half an hour one night telling her that i will NEVER love her or feel the way she does. now i know that that was a very insensitive thing to do i am sorry and eventualy i apolagise for yelling at her (this is all on line via instent messaging.for a few weeks this works and she leaves me alone, hanging out with her own friends. i think that i am in the clear, wrong. soon after this ends she begins to showing up around school waiting for me to finish lessons or until i get to the place where me and my friends hang out. at the same time there is an increase in the amount of times she talks to me online, its now up to about 5 times and within 5 minites of me logging online.these conversations are good or balanced or meaningfull or any thing its usualy her asking me a bunch of questions about my day then telling me about hers. now for a while i asume that this will go away, it didnt. now at this time my exams start and my timetable becomes crazy with revision so i rarely see her. however she begins to offer healping me out with revising. if this was some one in my year group i would imediately jump on the chance but being a year below me there is NOWAY that she will know what i am studying for (my school kinda sucks). so this continues and i decide there is something i have to do so on msn i block her so she cant talk to me knowing that i wont see her at school any more. some how though she gets my phone number and she begins texting me like 6 times a day, me and my friends NEVER text, i get like 6 messages in two months. around this point i snap and call her on it and she tells me she does indeed fancy me and i spend another half hour telling to get over me. she doesnt, it all continues the messaging the texting her asking people about me asking for pictures of me.but no my story doesnt stop there, i relise that i must have done something and i am usualy a very nice kind caring person i figure it must be that, so since we only talk via electronic devices it is very easy to fake a mood or opinion, so i start acting like a jerk ass perv that only wants to see her naked and doesnt give a feck about her. even this didnt work it all still continued. she even gies by the nick name british lady and has created various acounts on things using that as her name. keep in mind i have given this nick name to like 5 others girls who names i cant remember or just dont like (my sister, her friends, friends friends friends).right now i am really at the end of my rope with her, she wont leave me alone. evn if i ignore her it doesnt help then she just bothers my frineds.i would like to emphasis that i have done NOTHING to imply in any way that i like her, she is fairly atractive but is not my type in any way and i have told her this. so i ask all of you what should i do and is it my fault? any and all help on the matter is greatly apreciatedPS sorry for the long post and this site has some relly helpfull people.
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reader, Goshhesagoth +, writes (21 July 2009):
Just remember she's in like with you and think about how she feels.you are acting like you've never had a crush on someone and got rejected.i think that you're just a selfish full of yourself person you should appreciate her liking you...plus if you really don't like her then why did you just block her instead of completely deleting her jerk?
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (2 July 2009):
 woah! she's really not letting go.
well you can get her number blocked on your phone and as you've done block her on msn and delete her.
then if she keeps hasseling you threaten to go to the police for harrassment because that's what she is doing flooding you with calls and texts and it's harrassment especially getting your number without your consent.
and if that doesn't work tell her you got a girlfriend get someone to play the girlfriend for you and perhaps she'll back off.
but definately get the number blocked saves you alot of stress :)
Hope this helps message me you need anything x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, Renee okc  +, writes (2 July 2009):
Why dont you just change your number is it so bad that she has a crush on you, she will get over it eventually but every way that she is getting in contact with you, you can change get off the computer that will stop the emails, change your number, or better yet stop responding it is sad that you are out to hurt her feeeling could it be a case of you being in denial and you have started to like her because you seem to have no problem talking to her she sounds sweet and very interested in you why i dont know because i would probably hurt you if you treated me that way but just stop talking to her period if you dont like her or tell her ya'll can only be friends and leave it at that. You just sound like a mean dude and i think she is just trying to be your friend.
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