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41-50,
*adlyinloveandconfused
writes:I want him back! We haven't spoken in a week, and I've been strong and not called/emailed/or texted since he broke up with me. i wrote a previous question about this, in which i thought the best thing to do would be to ignore him hoping he will come back. now, i can't stop thinking about him, and how much i miss him! i completely bugged out at him b/c i thought he was cheating on me, but i didnt have any real proof. he was just behaving in a weird way.someone please tell me what i should do to get him back!!!thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): I saw what you wrote and I think this can help
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): i have been in a 6 year relationship, i would say that i had a few experiences before that leads to your problem. you think that he is cheating on you, but do you exactly have the proof that he is cheating on you?if yes, i think you should find the reason why he's cheating on you?becoz from my point of view, every problem that occurs is caused by both. let's say if my boyfriend is cheating, i would have asked myself what did i do wrong until he's able to cheat on me. if there is a problem that's caused by me, i would talk to him and settle it. but if your answer is no, i think you have a problem in trusting your boyfriend. because a guy couldnt stand a girl who doesn't trust him. maybe your boyfriend needs some space.p/s:if you miss him, just call or meet him because there's no point in you being ego but then u suffered inside!!
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reader, angelsrock18 +, writes (2 July 2009):
 well if that is the reason he broke up with you, it was kind of a smart choice, one if he was, or two if you keep thinking he is cheating.
you have to have trust and talk before you accuse, try talking to him about it,.
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reader, Jo Chris +, writes (2 July 2009):
You did the right thing in leaving him alone. Stalking and being a mad texter won't do anything to get him back.
Now to move onto how to get back together with your ex. In a couple of days you do need to talk to him. This time you are going to apologize to him. Do it in person if possible but don't force it.
Tell him you are sorry (and be sincere) for making things so difficult for him. During the last week you've been thinking and you realized that if you don't feel like you can trust him then you should break up. Not because of anything he did but because you were having trust issues and it wasn't fair to him for you to put him through that.
Make the conversation short. thank him for the memories and for talking with you. Then walk away, hang up the phone, whatever.
Now you give him more time, like 3 weeks. During that time you are going to work on you. Build your confidence and strength up. Start a hobby, begin working out if you don't already, join a club. This is going to be a new you that you will introduce to him later.
After about 3 weeks, call him to just check in and see how he is doing, as a friend only. Make the call quick and be very cordial but not overly friendly. Then be done. Now you are baiting the hook.
A few more calls will happen over the course of time. And your friendship and his attraction to you will build.
wishing you the best,
Jo Chris
http://www.answerstogetbacktogetherwithyourex.blogspot.com/
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (2 July 2009):
Stop trippin call the boy and tell him you want him back is he cheating i dont know but hell if you want him that bad then go get him before he does move on and find another girl you seem confused so make up your mind quick. You will have to prove yourself because you may have hurt him badly so call the man
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