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writes:ok so I have been with my boyfriend for about a yr now. Things were going great he had a job so did I, we were renting a trailer together and expecting a baby...then he lost his job, and my part time job was just not enough to keep us afloat, so we lost the trailer, were pretty much homeless for a while till my mother let us come stay with her, then he started saying he wanted to breakup that he was not happy with me and left...then later on said he was sorry and wanted to be back with me so we could get things straight and take care of our baby. (who is only a few weeks away from being born now) but my mother didnt want him back at the house, because he got really hateful with her when he left and apprently my little sister is scared of him and mess...so we were pretty much homeless again for a while...and then my grandmother and grandfather let us come stay with them...he still hasnt found a job and I cant work mine anymore cause of being preg and the dr not wanting me to lift over 20lbs...so we are pretty much broke, and he started taking money from my grandparents, well they finally caught him and kicked him out, and now I dunno what to do...he says he wants to be with me but neither places I have to go my mother or my grandparents want him to come back up here which puts me in another hard place, because of his baby...I love him to death but now we have no where to go together and now he isnt allowed on either property to even see his baby....I dont want to end things with him, but he has caused so much trouble with my family now and he just wont straighten up and get a job that I dunno what to do....I dont want to end things with him because I love him and hope somehow we can make things work out, but I am in such a tuff spot now cause we arent going to be able to see each other anymore or anything like that. what should I do? just end things with him? or keep trying to work things out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): Hey is jobless and has been for a long time and is comfortable relying on the charity of others, he has stolen from your grandparents who were charitable enough to let him into their house when no one else would.
He also was terribly rude to your mother and frightens your sister.....oh and he dumped you when you were pregnant.
Seems like a total catch to me....NOT. What is it that you 'love to bits' about him anyway? The fact that he is a theif, jobless, frightens childres, disrespects you and your family?
Do you have no self respect or loyalty to your family? You dont need this man in your life, frankly i think you would be better off without him!
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (2 July 2009):
YOU NEED TO DUMP THAT LOSER He has caused problems with your mom and stolen from your grandparents the only people apparently helping him he is not doing anything to help this situation what are you going to do keep following him around when he doesnt know where he is going your family will help you with the baby but he cant even buy milk he will only start taking your money you need to concentrate on being a mother first and a girlfriend second you need to tell him straighten up get a job and take care of your kid or i am leaving you and moving on GIRL YOU NEED TO WAKE UP HE HAS ISSUES THAT HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU AND YOU NEED A MAN NOW NOT ANOTHER CHILD TO TAKE CARE OF AND HOW DARE YOU SUBJECT YOUR FAMILY TO THIS LOSER he might be a great guy but right now is only thinking of himself
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