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*mandajo862
writes:Hi I broke up with my boyfriend that I have been seeing on and off for the past 4 years he treated me terrible not just terrible but how noone should ever be treated! he sprayed me in the face with pepper spray, he slit all my tires, he called me all the names in the book and i could go on and on about him being terrible to me.. and your asking yourself why i let this go on for so long?? because i have never felt this way about anyone in my entire life and even after all those things he has done to me i still feel the same way. Im embarassed and ashamed to say this is how i feel about a him, but i havent talked to him in 2 months i changed my number and last night i broke down and used my friends phone to text him to find out how hes been doing, because i heard he was messin around with other girls and that almost made me sick to my stomach because i dont want him with anyone else. I guess my question is am i crazy? Im not sure what to do anymore
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reader, MansonGroupie  +, writes (2 July 2009):
 Oh you poor thing, I cannot believe that anyone thinks they have the right to treat another person so appallingly!First things first, No, you are not crazy! Guys like this are manipulative and controlling, they take time to get into your thoughts and mind, then subject you to cruelty such as this. When you eventually pluck up the courage to say'enough is enough', the damage has already been done!I'm inclined to say that what you're feeling isn't love anymore, just a sense that maybe you don't remember how to live life without him.The last thing you want to do is be getting in contact with him, now's the time to be strong! If he is with other girls, so what?? Do you think he'll treat them any differently? What if you begged him to take you back to keep him away from these girls? Not only would he have you back in the same position as before, probably worse this time as you've waved the white flag and surrendered to all of his wrong-doings!You will feel sick and anxious for a while, that's part of the healing process but you aren't going to heal with him around because he doesn't want you to.I'm not the best at giving answers but I am trying and I think guys like your ex should come with a health warning! At what point will they stop when tipped over the edge??Don't be ashamed or embarrassed. Get in touch with friends and family, start going out, maybe even take up a brand new hobby. You have to keep yourself occupied. Don't sit in listening to sad songs and dwelling. You deserve so, so much better than this moron.Keep smiling...and resist those urges to text, for your own sake Hunnie :) xx
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reader, kittykhaos +, writes (2 July 2009):
 He has manipulated you into thinking you need him your ex is obviously a horrid man who you need to steer well clear of. Anyone who has done those things could be capable of worse what if the next thing he slashes is you instead of your tires?? look at what you have written if a friend said that about an ex what would you say to them?
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reader, gemmaxx09 +, writes (2 July 2009):
 no ur not crazy, i split from my ex four months ago, he was horrible but if i thort he was with someone else my stomach would turn. The only thing thats got me through that is whoever is with him next will be treated just the way i was and i feel really sorry for them. It will be the same with ur ex, hes not gunna treat any other girl differently, he will be just as horrible to them. Your very lucky not to be that girl now.
Its only been 2months but as time goes on you will heal. I am way too stubborn to ever get in contact with my ex and he knows he will never hear from me soo he emails me constantly. However, it was really difficult for me not to but if i do it just means he wins because he will know im still thinking about him and i would rather anything than that. So i know where your coming from by getting in contact with him, but do not give the satisfaction of knowing you still think about him.
Just be strong and know you deserve way more than some guy treat you like that and if other girls have any sense they will realise they deserve more than your ex too.
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