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Archived questions from: January, 2016 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How do I handle this invitation?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3245 days ago

31 January 2016 (F)

age 36-40 - I am in a conundrum! So I am planning a destination wedding. Mostly to weed out a lot of family members I have no close relation too. This way it will be simple, relaxed, and a nice time with people I care about and care about me. I recently was talking with a scho... (259 words)

Boyfriend proposed but I feel unsure!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3246 days ago

31 January 2016 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend of 8 years proposed! It was a complete shock. We had talked about getting married in the future and joked about it, but I wasn't expecting a proposal! I definitely love him, but I feel more anxious and embarrassed than excited. I literally didn't know what to say ... (90 words)

What is wrong with me that I get involved with a married man? Why am I such a mess?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3246 days ago

31 January 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - What is wrong with me?? Please tell me what's wrong with me. I am ending an alcoholic marriage and am getting divorced. It has been very sad for many years and then i get involved with a married man for the last 18 months cos he was kind and caring. He doesn't have chi... (231 words)

I've been dreaming of my ex. Should I send him a valentine message?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3246 days ago

31 January 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - Please help me make a decision. I meet up with my first love in the Summer last year. It was great seeing him after not seeing him for over 10 years. We dated a few times, the chemistry between us was amazing. After date 2 he really came on to me and we had sex although I d... (235 words)

My husband is demanding a MMF and I want no part of it. Where is this coming from?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3238 days ago

31 January 2016 (F)

age - My husband of 37 years is now demanding an mmf. He also recently started working his finger in my anus during intercourse and insists on oral from me right after sex without wiping my juices off of his penis. I don't know where this is coming from. Every vacation he begs me to ... (78 words)

If he's really interested wouldn't he make more of an effort to see me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3246 days ago

31 January 2016 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear Cupid, I've been out of the dating world for awhile so looking for advice. I met a man on-line, he lives fairly close to me, has a good job, I know he is really single, my age, no children, but the only days he would see me would be on Wednesday or Saturday, which wa... (207 words)

I'm straight, my bi bff hits on me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3246 days ago

31 January 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - I am straight and a girl and my bff has recently come out as bisexual a few months ago. We all knew it by then, though. I don't have a problem with that at all, BUT... My problem is that she is hitting on me in public and when we are alone together! It makes me feel extremel... (157 words)

What can you advise in this situation? It feels like I am option two.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3246 days ago

31 January 2016 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks and it's been amazing. The connection is unlike anything I've experienced in such a long time. I started to fall in love with him the second I first saw him. Magic. We love each others company, the sex is the best and will go for hour... (459 words)

Should I be worried that I have puffy areolas? I am worried they will be a turn off for guys.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3245 days ago

31 January 2016 (F)

age 22-25 - So I'm 16 and I have really puffy areolas. I read somewhere that they level out as puberty progresses but I guess I've passed that stage already and I'm stuck like this. I hate it because I always have to wear a bra, even around the l the house I cannot get myself to go brale... (170 words)

Should I encourage him to take the job? Can our marriage survive as a LDR for 3 to 5 years?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3246 days ago

31 January 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupids, I am a 35 year old woman, married with no kids. I love my husband and I love our life together. Yesterday he told me that his firm is considering sending him in a remote country 10hrs away by plane and he would have to work there for two months, then come back f... (210 words)

Why am I only attracted to troubled women?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3246 days ago

31 January 2016 (F)

age 36-40 - I've wondered this for a while. Why am I only attracted to troubled women? Or women who are either bad for me or I can't have? I've never, ever had trouble in the female department. In fact, I would say I've been very fortunate. I've always been able to get girls, but t... (230 words)

Why do I only attract creepy men?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2613 days ago

31 January 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, so I'm 23 year old, and I've never been kissed or had a boyfriend, but that's not the point of this post. It might help you all understand my situation. I live in a big city so it's quite normal to get a bit of street harassment. But I have noticed lately that the ... (437 words)

How can I talk to someone who won't admit to doing anything wrong?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3246 days ago

31 January 2016 (F)

age 36-40 - I feel like my boyfriend of 3 years is taking me for granted. I feel like he thinks he doesn't have to treat me well because I'm just going to put up with it. In the past, I have put up with it and I haven't said anything because I didn't want to deal with a conflict. But late... (331 words)

Should I face this now? Or wait, to avoid the stress, until baby is born?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3246 days ago

30 January 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - In the next 7 week I will be at my due date with my first baby with my boyfriend. Over Christmas my brother fell out with my boyfriend, and my brother kept telling me to dump my boyfriend as he wasn't what I thought he was and I'd be better moving I'm with my parents and havi... (505 words)

Heart broken. Is he just not "into" me ?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3246 days ago

30 January 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi I'd really appreciate other peoples views on my situation please . I've had great advice about this very man on here before. Finally seemed to be getting somewhere a month ago with him inviting me out most nights , I stayed over him cuddling me all night . only actually ha... (349 words)

My wife of 22 years has no remorse over her cheating. Should we divorce, or do what we want?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3246 days ago

30 January 2016 (M)

age 51-59 - I just found out that my wife cheated on me and not the first time and she does not even feel remorse. We have been married for 22 years, both in our 40s. She looks amazing for her age. Men always liked her. we have a grown child and empty nesters. Few last years we kind of... (331 words)

By accident I discovered that my husband likes to video himself masterbating, when he is alone. Why does he keep this secret?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3247 days ago

30 January 2016 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband and I are both in our fifties. We have been married for 13 years. He has always watched porn but now he stays up late to watch it, masterbate, and videotape himself ejaculate. He won't do this in front of me and he also denies that he even masterbates.... (82 words)

I "hooked up" with a guy I hardly know. No sex, but did try to give him a Bj. Will my next experience with a guy be better?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3247 days ago

30 January 2016 (F)

age 22-25 - I'm a 16 year old girl and a few months ago I stupidly and carelessly "hooked up" with this guy I didn't know too well. Please don't tell me I'm an idiot because trust me I've told myself that everyday since. Before that I'd never soo much as held hands with a guy let alon... (273 words)

My boyfriend, his Mermaid, and me. Was he disrespectful to add a mermaid? How should I handle this?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3246 days ago

30 January 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - I will try to make this short and sweet. My boyfriend (we have been dating for a 1.5 year broke up a few times for 2 weeks). He is a big tattoo guy, He has a sleeve and half a sleeve on the other arm. I don't mind them, as I think they look nice on him. One is a portrait... (291 words)

I am feeling sorry for myself, and sorry for the wife of my married lover since we broke up. How do I get over this break-up?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3247 days ago

30 January 2016 (F) age 41-50 - I broke up with a married man two weeks ago. While I am dealing with that and trying to let go, I am also crying over the fact that I will no longer be friends with his wife either. Please don't judge and tell me she is better off without friends like me- I know that. In m... (209 words)

I feel trapped. Is changing my identity and starting afresh an option to deal with my wish to be single and free?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3245 days ago

30 January 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok so I think there is something really wrong with me. I have never had any desire to get married or have a family-I'm 36. For the past couple of years in been fantasizng of changing my identity and leaving my life and starting fresh.... I just feel so trapped and I do... (431 words)

The cake fiasco. What do you think?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3246 days ago

30 January 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, Hoping for some advice as I'm completely embarrassed and annoyed by a situation! My friend recently turned 30 and for her birthday I had a novelty cake made for her as a surprise. A colleague of mine suggested a lady she knows, who has made her several cakes. She show... (701 words)

I'm not sure if this co-worker lied to me. How should I deal with her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3247 days ago

30 January 2016 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm involved in a delicate situation and I may have been lied to and now I'm not sure what to make of it all... There's a girl in my office, she is 19 and a temp- she's been with the company for 5 months. She is quite and just gets on with her work and never draws... (721 words)

How can I secure myself financially?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3246 days ago

30 January 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - So I've been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years now... 3 of those we were saving up to buy a house. Well really he was the one doing the saving, as he served in the military and I was a University student on a tight budget. After finishing uni he wanted to buy a house wi... (501 words)

I can't make sense of this sexual stuff!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3246 days ago

30 January 2016 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello everyone... first post here, wanting to discuss something thats been happening for a while now and have never had any input from anyone else on the subject due to it being a pretty embarrassing to say the least. Anyway i have been with my fiance for almost 3 years n... (239 words)

Do I have a toxic relationship with my parents?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3245 days ago

30 January 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - Do I have a toxic relationship with my parents? I live in a strict Asian household (think Tiger mom). It is going to be a lengthy post so please be patient with me. -When I was younger, my parents would ignore me and give me the cold shoulder if I did not get straight As.... (483 words)

Do women get scared of a man, when all he does is try to make her happy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3247 days ago

29 January 2016 (M)

age 51-59 - Do women get scared of a man, when all he does is try to make her happy? I mean, can he do something that makes, her feel like he is getting to like her too much, an then she runs, but down the road, she goes out with other men, an she compares, the new guys, an they don't trea... (117 words)

LDR. How do we make the most of our time together, and build our loving relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3246 days ago

29 January 2016 (F)

age 26-29 - So my boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 9 months we are 5 hours drive away. We unsually alternate the drive up or down. Usually we see each other late late Saturday, spend all day Sunday and most of Monday together, however we havent seen each other in 6 weeks,... (183 words)

What can I do about my overbearing controlling sister in law? She also has power of attorney over my husband

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3248 days ago

29 January 2016 (F)

age - Should I give up on my marriage? my husband s oldest sister who is power of attorney to him and was power of attorney for his mom before his mom died still wants to be in charge of everything. No way in hell does she want to let go of this. his check goes to her. He is... (375 words)

Am I over sensitive about the mean things my husband says to me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3246 days ago

29 January 2016 (F)

age - Hello I am a middle aged woman and have been married for 12 years. My husband is in his early 60s. Our marriage has had its up and downs but we have made progress, we are both from different countries. We live in Canada. My family live in UK. I have nobody here except... (1167 words)

Is it hard to find a person who is your perfect sexual match?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3247 days ago

29 January 2016 (F) age 41-50 - Do you think it takes goimg through lots of people to find your sexual match? I mean somebody you are totally compatible in bed with? Unlike any other? You can be attracted to many people but that does not always mean mind blowing sex with them. My question is when you... (104 words)

Seems he's been messaging her non-stop. Is my boyfriend cheating on me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3244 days ago

29 January 2016 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay so I know some people may judge me for this but about two months back I snooped on my boyfriends phone. I saw he had been exchanging lots of messages with this girl he goes to university with who he is actually going to be living with next academic year (not just her, the... (583 words)

Help me beat my fear of violent sex

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3228 days ago

29 January 2016 (F)

age 26-29 - I have a problem that's seriously interfering with my sex life. When I was 11, I learned about how sex worked by looking up naughty videos. These videos and games were hentai, and often portrayed sex as bloody and painful and that the woman didn't really want it. I distinct... (363 words)

How do I dump my online match?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3248 days ago

29 January 2016 (F)

age 36-40 - I matched with a guy on Tinder and we started talking. He was really nice and our personalities clicked. But when we met in person there was no sexual attraction. Also, the fact that he's 31 and has never had a relationship longer than 1 month kinda turned me off. I don't t... (141 words)

I've found love but is it too soon?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3245 days ago

29 January 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone. I am going through a pretty complicated situation right now and I am in desperate need of advice. In April of last year, I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 and a half years. I knew about a year before the break up that I was done, but it was really hard actu... (466 words)

I feel everyone will hate me if I see more of this guy. What do I need to do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3245 days ago

29 January 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been going out with my current boyfriend for 3 years now. We have had our ups and downs but for the last few months we have had a smooth patch. As we starting going out quite young (ish) the relationship has sometimes made me a little insecure and sometimes he has had ... (590 words)

I think I might have texted myself deep in the friend zone!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3248 days ago

29 January 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - I was out of state for new years' and I met this guy. We hit it off, exchanged numbers, but then i had to return home before we could hang out again. We texted sporadically at first, but for 2 weeks now we've texted every single day for hours on end, such that it's almost ... (189 words)

I am mentally dating myself--am I crazy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3241 days ago

29 January 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi agony aunts, my story stems from when I was 9 years old. I had just freshly moved out of my dad's house to live with my grandmother after him and my mother separated. So I was very bored and had this second world of thought where I usually escaped to. At the age of 9, I ... (469 words)

How would you label this relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3245 days ago

29 January 2016 (M)

age 36-40 - I've got a general question I'd love some feedback on. Friends with benefits? F*ck buddies? Dating? Friends? What are we? So I am friends with this girl and have been for some time now. That I do know. We do things together and talk about all sorts of stuff. We text each oth... (281 words)

Am I being too fussy with guys?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3249 days ago

29 January 2016 (F)

age 41-50 - I am back dating. I am looking for a longterm relationship. I have a good amount of male attention as I know younger and guys my age find me attractive and Im open and honest and told a great friend. I do feel like maybe Im not getting things right and that good guys might be ... (157 words)

I walked in on my wife while she was performing oral sex. Should I end the marriage?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3248 days ago

29 January 2016 (M)

age 41-50 - Me and my wife have been married for 12 years now.I never expected this from her.One day when I got home from work I walked in on her giving head to another man.He immediately ran out of the apartment,didn't even have time to get dressed.In our house she dared to do such a ... (291 words)

I need my boyfriend's support but he is distant and uncommunicative

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3248 days ago

28 January 2016 (F)

age 26-29 - I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months and we were dating for two months prior to this. Initially I was really happy with how our relationship was, we were really close friends before hand so it just kind of seemed to flow. But in the past month I have found him to be so ... (262 words)

My sister is closer to our sister in law than me and it hurts!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3248 days ago

28 January 2016 (F)

age 51-59 - What would you do you sister in law and you sister were better friends than with you, sometimes family hurt you the most..? none of you see each other often, maybe 1-2 times a year as you live in different places, they have more in common as they are married and have kids, I ... (289 words)

I have feelings for her and don't want he to change

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3249 days ago

28 January 2016 (M)

age 26-29 - Hello I have a friend that I have known since middle school, they are one of my closest friends and I have had feelings for them for a long time. The only problem is they want to have a sex change from a woman to a man. As much as I respect her I do not want her to go through ... (110 words)

I need to focus on finding myself but don't know where to stop

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3248 days ago

28 January 2016 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello Everyone I need advice on getting my health and energy back on track. I have a very stressful job but it's gotten to the point where I am blaming my lack of energy, and poor eating, failed relationship and not going to gym on my work which is true however I've given ... (274 words)

My boyfriend of 2 years came inside me for the first time after sex. Why did he do this?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3248 days ago

28 January 2016 (F) age 30-35 - My boyfriend came inside me after having sex. He always pulls out and this is the first time in 2 years he has ever done this. So I am wondering if I need to be concerned by the change in behaviour. Why do this after all this time when he has never done this before? He to... (152 words)

He's a good guy but I don't like the way he talks to me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3249 days ago

28 January 2016 (M)

age 26-29 - I have been dating this guy since November, we are not official yet but have told one another that we aren't talking or interested in other people. Lately we have been fighting, fights that I may cause but its because of how he talks to me. For example before he goes to work he ... (174 words)

I can't move past the bad experiences I had in my former job

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3245 days ago

28 January 2016 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm having trouble dealing and moving past previous bad experiences at work and other things. I've been to the doctors and they have implied (not officially diagnosed anything) that I have anxiety. Although I don't worry per se more beat myself up and make myself feel bad. My ... (761 words)

Why does an extra marital affair last 3 years and still going strong?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3248 days ago

28 January 2016 (F) age 51-59 - What are the reasons an extra marital affair lasts going on 3 years?? Do most of them not end sooner? And realistically how much longer can it continue? Why does a married man stay this long with another woman? Surely it isn't a lapse in judgment, a mistake, fling or o... (123 words)

I'm worried about spending time with my boyfriend's son. He has behavioral problems

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3248 days ago

28 January 2016 (F) age 36-40 - I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. We moved in together a few months ago, relocated to a new city and all. We're both 27. He has an 8 year old son. I met him when he was a little younger, and we had a good relationship from the start. He seems to like me a lot. Th... (810 words)