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writes:I've got a general question I'd love some feedback on. Friends with benefits? F*ck buddies? Dating? Friends? What are we? So I am friends with this girl and have been for some time now. That I do know. We do things together and talk about all sorts of stuff. We text each other constantly throughout the day, and she tells me when she's had a bad day, and in general confides in me, etc. We both are also fairly fresh out of relationships where we both are not over our ex's. We are very supportive of each other when we are having a hard time with said ex's, and it's nice. However, on the other side of the coin, we sleep together. Every time we hang out, she spends the night and we have sex. And we have phenomenal sexual chemistry. So this doesn't fall under any category of relationship I've ever had. F*ck buddy implies someone who you only text at 2 am when you've been out drinking. Which we aren't. Friends with benefits seems like it could be a good fit? But we spend a lot of time together and do things together like dinner and movies. However, it feels like dating without the title of dating. Yet we both aren't over our ex's so I know a relationship is not what we are going for. So what the heck are we? I am perfectly content how things are at the moment. Very happy with it. I suppose I am just curious what exactly everybody thinks this is. I'd like some input. Thanks!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 February 2016):
 Am pretty sure that in time you may both end up dating. You are both honest that you are not over your previous partners, and you are both using each other as a comfort blanket. But as you said it is not a quick hook up, you both confined in each other. Who knows that the future brings, but I hope one day use can forget the past and move forward happily with or without each other. All the best.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (29 January 2016):
 If you really have to label this relationship, I think FWB fits perfectly. In fact, it would be the "real " FWB as it is in theory. Two people that like each other's company, and also like each other physically and every now and then act on this attraction. But with no romantic mutual feelings, no committment , no common projects for the future.
It does not say anywhere that two casual sexual partners can't enjoy occasionally go out together for dinner or movies, or can't have meaningful conversations . In fact, that would be actually the "friends " part of the FWB. In practice, most of the times it ends up ( or start ) with all being just about casual sex, with no practical difference from fuck buddies, or maybe a difference in terms of hooking up a bit more often. But the "benefits " is much huger than the " friends "; I guess it just sounds nicer than calling it fuck buddies.
Luckily , you have found a situation where you can have uncommited sex ,but not void of any closeness and affection. Enjoy it till it lasts - because it's, if not inevitable, very frequent that either one gets attached, decides " f..k the ex " and starts wishing for something more....
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