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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes: Please help me make a decision.I meet up with my first love in the Summer last year. It was great seeing him after not seeing him for over 10 years. We dated a few times, the chemistry between us was amazing. After date 2 he really came on to me and we had sex although I did not really want to but he was so passionate. We dated again over xmas. I was away for xmas and he started a new job and was focusing on that as he worked over xmas. He sent me a happy new year message.My situation is different to his - I have grown up children and they have a father although I am not married or in a committed relationship or living with him.He has no children and no exclusive partner and not living with any one.I keep dreaming about him.I was thinking of sending him a valentines message just wishing him a happy valentine's day and adding a line - don't forget your real friends. As I have know him for years when he was struggling. A lot of his friends know him since he became famous.Do you think this is a good idea. I have avoided chasing him
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (1 February 2016):
No. Sending a sentimentalish Valentine card to a guy whom you had few casual dates, and casual sex, with IS chasing him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 January 2016):
I think Valentine's are for "lovers" not friends. So if you see him as a friend you can send him a card or message, but I wouldn't make it a Valentine's one.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (31 January 2016):
Why don't you be a bit more positive. Tell him it was great seeing him again, and it would be marvellous to renew the acquaintance on a more regular basis. And ask how he feels about that. The worst that can happen is that he says no.
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