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writes:Dear Cupid,I've been out of the dating world for awhile so looking for advice. I met a man on-line, he lives fairly close to me, has a good job, I know he is really single, my age, no children, but the only days he would see me would be on Wednesday or Saturday, which was ok but he would wait until the night before to ask for the following day. It made me feel he was waiting to see if anything better came along. I did tell him this, but nothing changed. Now for the last two weeks I didn't see him on Wednesday and because we had bad weather over the weekend, I didn't see him on Saturday either. So didn't see him for two weeks and he lives 15 minutes away. If after seven dates, if a man is interested, wouldn't he make more of an attempt to see me, and not wait until the last minute to ask me out again? Just wanted to know what others thought of the situation.Thanks everyone! Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 February 2016):
 I think the fact that he DIDN'T call says a lot. If he was so confused, why not call and see if it could be sorted out?
I think you did the right thing as well.
Upward and onward.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe responded by email, acted confused as to why I had a problem, said he was at a loss for words and didn't know what to say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe sent an email, saying he was speechless, acted confused as to why I had a problem and that he had tried to say in touch with me by text messages. But didn't try to call or see me to talk.
Thank you for your advise, I don't want someone who keeps me guessing as to if he is interested or not. It was the right decision.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 January 2016):
**I told him I was no longer interested.**
What was his reply ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both, I needed to hear that others thought was I was thinking. I told him I was no longer interested.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 January 2016):
I DO think if he was keen on you he would make WAY more effort to hang out, even in bad weather!
And asking at last minute? so bad manners IMHO - because YOU could have made plans, but does he PRESUMES that you sit around and WAIT for him to ask?...
Even if he WAS super busy an only REALLY had time 2 days a week, wouldn't he by now ASK you on Wednesday if you have plans for Saturday? And vice verse? So the dates becomes SCHEDULED, not "last minute".
I'm with WiseOwlE - I'd chuck this one back on the pond.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2016): He's weighing his options and looking for better prospects.
Kick him to the curb. Whether he is or isn't, but offers you very little of his time or interest; that is enough to decide he's wasting "your" time.
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