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writes:HiI'd really appreciate other peoples views on my situation please . I've had great advice about this very man on here before.Finally seemed to be getting somewhere a month ago with him inviting me out most nights , I stayed over him cuddling me all night . only actually had sex once (known him a long time ) but I was glad he didn't want to rush things as felt as if really getting to know him .Only thing is , he is so very quiet doesn't ever say what he thinks of me and hardly shows affection despite me trying to kiss him and lovely nights watching films lying together . Last week he asked me over then carried on working hardly acknowledging me and so when we went to bed and he wouldn't kiss me because was "going to sleep' I was really upset got up and went home .I was hurt because I totally want him yet we've only had sex once , I'm an affectionate person and okay he hugs me etc but inwant kisses etc. . why ask me over to carry on working ? Next day I said was sorry if I over reacted and got nothing , no reply so asked him to be honest rather than childish ignoring , he said he wasn't sure if wanted to see me because of the drama ?!?? I'm so not , I don't think it was wrong to be upset . he has now pulled right back , answers messages but no invitations over and when I asked it was " don't start this again" I am flumoxed but the way I read it is that he is just not into me , I feel like a fool because I love him but when I look it has been me giving all the way with very little indication from him . heart broken wahhh . please tell me I'm wrong and he loves me . sigh Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2016): I dont really understand why you even want to be with him. He is not passionate enough, his sex drive is low, he ignores you . WHy would you even want to pursue someone like that?
And wasting time on him
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2016): Thank you for your advice and so glad to hear someone else would have done the same , you are right I should let him go but I'm gutted as we get on so well, if he thinks I'm dramatic I'd love to be a fly when he encounters a real drama queen ! Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2016): Stop texting him. It's over. And he wasn't that great. Why you putting him on a pedestal?
Finding someone better for goodness sake!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2016): He's really giving you mixed messages and I don't think you've done anything wrong.. In fact I would have probably acted exactly the same. By him inviting you over then showing you no attention, it's as though he thinks you've got nothing better to do. I know it's hard but if you chase him it will only make things worse. I think you should just 'forget ' about him and get on with your own life. If he truly likes you and is worth your time, he will come back to you. However by chasing him you are more likely to scare him away. I do think you deserve better, and he deserves a taste of his own medicine. At least you're open with him, it's not nice to play mind games.I say you try your best to let him go, and if he doesn't come back then you deserved better anyway.
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