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writes:Do women get scared of a man, when all he does is try to make her happy?I mean, can he do something that makes, her feel like he is getting to like her too much, an then she runs, but down the road, she goes out with other men, an she compares, the new guys, an they don't treat her as good, do women ever, try to reconcile, with the guy, who treated her so good.you know the old saying, you don't realize, what you got until it's gone, works both ways.I find women do that more when they are younger, when they are older, they just chalk it up as a lesson Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 January 2016):
 I don't think it's okay to generalize women, as if we are all like minded and all think the same thought and are that easy and simple minded and predictable. We're intelligent just like men. So answer that question yourself, but replace women with men. Do men get scared of a woman, when all she does is try to make him happy, and then later regret they missed out on such a good woman?
Well then, as you're a man, and all men are supposedly the same, I guess you can answer that just as well as I can answer on behalf of all women out there.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 January 2016):
 I agree with jls022. Of course it is a generalization. There will be women that break up with someone only to realize in time that they made the wrong decision and they should have stayed in the relationship.
But in general, if someone does not want to be with you, it is because they realize that, for a number of reasons, no matter how good you treated them, you weren't the right match for them and basically not what they were looking for.
They can appreciate your kindness and attentions, for instance- but still feel a lack of physical chemistry. Or have life goals incompatible with yours. Or , too different tastes and interests. Clashing personalities. Opposite ways to handle finances, or to solve conflicts. Etc.etc. Basically, they see it is not working for them , and it the fact that you treated them nice.. will make you a nice guy, but not necessarily the right mate for them.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (30 January 2016):
 If she doesnt feel an attraction than youre more likely to scare her. OR if shes damaged as all hell she desires a man to treat her like $hit then she will definitely run because shes used to being treated badly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2016): To me its like looking back on a past job or holiday. You look back fondly at aspects of it but its gone and is in the past and its now that counts....
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reader, jls022  +, writes (30 January 2016):
On the whole, no I don't think so. You have to remember that just because a man TRIES to make a woman happy, doesn't mean he actually IS making her happy. Maybe what he's offering isn't what she needs or wants from a partner. That doesn't necessarily say anything about him, although if he gets the same feedback over and over he'd be silly to ignore it. But usually it just means she wasn't the right match for him so he should start looking elsewhere.
Of course some people (not just women) may dump a guy and later realise that the grass isn't greener, but in my experience, most people know their own mind enough to know when it's not working for them and nothing will really change that. It sounds as if you are hoping a woman, or even a few women, will one day turn around and realise what they lost when they ended things with you. That's a nice fantasy most of us have had to some degree, but by continuing to focus on them and what they are thinking long after the fact just prevents YOU from moving on.
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