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Archived questions from: January, 2014 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

He seemed genuine in his texts but when we met up he only wanted one thing!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3975 days ago

31 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, so confused. I've been talking to this guy for about a week, the conversation was going good andhe kept asking if we could meet up normally I dont meet them straight away I l like to talk to them for a couple of weeks first. However he seemed pretty geuine over text and... (239 words)

After premature ejaculation with sex workers, I'm worried I wouldn't be able to satisfy a future girlfriend

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3965 days ago

31 January 2014 (M)

age 36-40 - I have never been in a romantic relationship with a woman due to the fact that I tend to be painfully she around women in general. I can only attribute this to the fact that I suffer from a learning disability which has greatly impeded my social skills. However, I am not a vi... (159 words)

Boyfriend traveling abroad is posting on Facebook but hasn't called me like he promised!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3181 days ago

31 January 2014 (F)

age - Hi everyone. I am writing for help because I have never been so confused in my life. I have been in a relationship with a lovely man for just over a year and we have both said how happy we are together, we get on perfectly, do great things together, share the same interes... (505 words)

How do you feel about social media? It seems to cause problems for me.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3975 days ago

31 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - How do you guys feel about social media, especially Facebook? Do you think it's worth it to have one? Has it ever caused any problems for you? I'm asking this because it seems to cause a lot of insecurity within myself and other problems. I am not popular and don't have many ... (273 words)

How do I flirt with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3975 days ago

31 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - There's a guy I am interested who works at a pizza place I go to now and then that I'm interested in. He is young probably near my age (19). I am quiet and don't usually flirt so I don't know how to put myself out there. How do I go about flirting with him? (Besides be myself ... (60 words)

Is the guy I'm dating a sex addict?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3974 days ago

31 January 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I am concerned that the guy I met online and I am currently dating is possibly a sex addict! I've ignored some obscenities and red flags but now I am confused!!! I like him very much but I can't help but to be concerned with his preoccupation with sex during the early stages of ... (933 words)

Is he really interested or just after a booty call?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3974 days ago

31 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey there, So basically I was at a huge law firm lecture and an ex pupil of my university was there, I've never met him before but he came straight over, introduced himself and started to chat. When we went into the lecture he said to his friend I'm going to sit with (my name... (305 words)

Found old love letters in my partner's sex drawer.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

31 January 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - This morning I discovered old love letters from my partner's ex-girlfriend from over two years ago-- they dated for about 6 months. I don't care about him still having them-- we all keep mementos from the past-- but I discovered them in the "sex drawer" where we keep all the ... (107 words)

Can't support my boyfriend through his illness because too many others want to visit him as well!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3971 days ago

31 January 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I think more than advice I need to put my thoughts into words. My boyfriend was about to commit suicide three weeks ago. He lives with some friends, and as someone is always in the house his friend was with him, noticed he wasn't doing well, and kept him company. My boyfriend ... (928 words)

I want to take some of my family to Disney World, but would rather not invite everyone

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

31 January 2014 (?) age 30-35 - I'm in the process of planning a trip to Disney World for myself, my husband, and five of my cousin's children. I've budgeted it all out for the 7 of us. The reason I wanted to take this trip is because their father, my cousin, died recently. These children are all half-sib... (265 words)

Ashamed I wasted 18 months with someone who puts me down

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

31 January 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Yet again my boyfriend of 18 months has ruined another special occasion. Yesterday I left work early and made a real effort to make his birthday special. I bought him lovely gifts, dressed up and booked a table at his favourite restaurant. We were sat in a restaurant and h... (291 words)

Am I being paranoid about my boyfriend adding a woman on Facebook?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

31 January 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm so upset. I noticed that my boyfriend has added a woman on his Facebook page. She lives in another country. There are photos on there of her dressed in revealing clothes. The clothes aren't revealing on all the photos, but she is dressed up on most of them. Underneath one ... (357 words)

Was this man just using me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

31 January 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I'd like your opinion. I was going out with my ex from March 2013 to Nov 2013, he called a halt to our relationship after I text him asking what was up and not to shut me out. I was right, there was something up, but he called it all off. In the meantime there were a... (283 words)

I'm being judged by my fathers past and his reputation, and men are afraid to approach me. How do I cope with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

31 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, I'm not being conceited but I'm only mentioning this so that u get a better idea to what my problem is I'm 24 and I should say I'm just not an average looking girl, I get a lot of compliments from both men and women! I got a lot of offers by modelling agenci... (209 words)

My friend has changed. Is he becoming more "manly" through a subconscious need to fit in, or is this the "real him"?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

31 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm a little confused and hurt as to why my male friend seems very distant. We have been friends for about 4 years, but became closer after we kept in touch after we finish college. And NO before anyone pipes up I have no feelings for him I have a bf who I've been with just ... (487 words)

Having doubts about starting a relationship with this woman. Am I being too sensitive?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3876 days ago

31 January 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, I have recently met a girl who is very keen on having a relationship with me, it has only been 2 months since we met and I want us to take our time to get to know one another better. She doesn't want to wait and keeps on rushing me. After last night's conversation I a... (175 words)

How can I live in a new relationship without being haunted by my past?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

31 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi there :) So, this is the problem: in July my (ex) bf broke up with me, after seven months of relationship. He was my first time, and I really loved him, even though we weren't good with each other. After the break up, I was lonely for a long time, until I met a guy in Dec... (152 words)

He is badmouthing me to mutual friends. Should I confront him?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

31 January 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - I had a falling out with a guy friend some months back. I discovered he had feelings for me (I had feelings for him too), things became complicated and our friendship ended on a very sour note. He ended up blocking me on all social networks. I figured that was the end of us ... (244 words)

Girlfriend keeps pressuring me to perform oral and I hate it.

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 3970 days ago

31 January 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - I don't know how to say all this without coming out like an asshole but please hear me out. My girlfriend keeps pressuring me to go down on her because she goes down on me but I really don't want to. I've tried it before with several girls (including her ONCE) and I've come ... (515 words)

Am I overthinking his comment?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

31 January 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - This is the dumbest thing I've ever asked.. But I'm not sure if I should be insulted or think it's sweet... My boyfriend said to me: you may not be perfect but you're perfect for me... I instantly thought "aw how sweet", but should I be insulted or am I over thinking things?... (57 words)

Why did he start playing games? How should I respond?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

31 January 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I met this guy on tinder and we started talking and hit it off right away... turns out we have tons of mutual friends. He was nothing but reliable and up for texting for hours. I found it nice that he even called me as most guys just text these days. We went on 2 hang out da... (234 words)

Should I apologise to the ex for my wrongdoing?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

31 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I broke up with my ex 7 months ago because we fought too often. We had a brief period of no contact, but eventually he started talking to me again about once a week. We decided to give things another go about 2 weeks ago, but I bought up old issues and we ended up fighting ... (204 words)

I can't get over the breakup and the nasty comments I've heard since.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3977 days ago

30 January 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - I have seeing this guy for 3.5 years. We met on the job and I thought he was a good man, come to find out that he is insecure, low self esteem and a big flirt. At first he said he was not looking for a serious relationship but over the yrs he fell for me and his actions ... (348 words)

How do I get over losing my best friend? He's rejected me and moved on.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3946 days ago

30 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I don’t know how to deal with the rejection of my best friend. He and I were best friends from 13 until 22. I have always been a good friend to him, been there for him, run to him when he has needed me, and even when he has closed the door on me when I have needed him I forgav... (362 words)

My boyfriend is circumcised and takes too long to orgasm. Sex hurts me. What can we do?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3974 days ago

30 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - 6 months of horrible sex. I am dating a men that is (''cut'') he is the first one I have dated. It is like his penis is desensitise, he thrusts and pounds during sex as if my vagina was made of steel, he takes very long to orgasm and I get sore and it gets painful. I am al... (168 words)

How has the new guy I've been dating made me get over my ex so suddenly?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

30 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a question that confuses me to the point that I don't know what's going on! Basically, I dated this guy last year and I loved him I've never had that strong feelings for anybody else before, but it ended just before summer and it was an awful break up. He hurt me so much ... (408 words)

How young is too young when it comes to settling down and having children?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3972 days ago

30 January 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello helpers! This is a relatively quick question, but one that i'd love some input for! I'm 18 years old, turning 19 this year. I'd say I was pretty mature for my age (alot of this coming from bad experiences in childhood). I'm currently dating my lovely boyfriend of abo... (248 words)

How do I start dating again after being hurt?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

30 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi Aunts and Uncles. I seem to have an issue with letting myself like men. Every time I have ever let myself feel something I end up getting hurt, and its gotten to the point where my defences are so far up that I think I may come across as uncaring or at times, intimidat... (109 words)

I suspect my husband of cheating but can't confront him.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

30 January 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, where do I start! My husband and I have been married for 15 years and have 3 children. Over the last 3 years I've found several occasions where my husband had been trying to get the attention of other women by both texting and facebook. I'm unaware of any actual cheating ... (123 words)

I gave my ex another chance, reunited and I am pregnant - now I find out he cheated and lied. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

30 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi To cut a long story short. I've been with my partner for nearly two years. A little less than a year into the relationship my partner treated me real bad. I don't want to go into too much detail but it left me devastated. We was on and off from that point because I didn't k... (237 words)

I feel I'll never attract someone of the same religion because of my looks and personality.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3973 days ago

30 January 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - hi... I am really a lost soul at the moment... I come from a Muslim family. My mom is moderate-liberal Muslim and my dad is relatively conservative. So I've been brought up with conflicting views... Anyways, so I'm at uni and I feel too conservative for non-muslims, but too... (144 words)

What does it mean if she's afraid when I tell her that I love her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3977 days ago

30 January 2014 (M)

age - I have the misfortune of loving a 55 year old woman who was traumatically, emotionally abused in a 30 year long marriage, until she became so frightened of him she managed to leave and divorce him. She is now divorced for 3 years. She was also emotionally abuse in grade ... (594 words)

Specific online help from an expert...does it exist?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3970 days ago

30 January 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - I have noticed that there is a lack of UK online counsellors/psychologists who can help with a specific problem and answer really quickly. Have you found that? There are forums such as this one where someone can answer and be really helpful but getting advice online from an ... (126 words)

I can't seem to hit a girl's g spot

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3975 days ago

30 January 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - i have 6.2 inch penis 4.5 inch straight and and around 2 inch slight down curve.. i had sex with thirteen different girl but i never get any negative comment but i still fell insecure because i think i m not able to satisfy and make girls orgasm in missionary position ,, i ... (132 words)

I'm not so interested in sex and I'm afraid my boyfriends desires will lead him to cheat

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

30 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hiya aunts and uncles, my fiancé of 4 months and dating for 3 years has been talking in his sleep and has expressed the same concerns in his waking hours. He is 26 and im 23 on valentines day. well, its like this: he doesn't feel like we are intimate enough and hes worried ... (422 words)

Can attraction develop after some distance between 2 people?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3977 days ago

30 January 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - You tell a guy you've liked him for ages. He's really flattered but admits he doesn't share any deeper feelings. Apparently he's started seeing someone at the moment, you hear from a friend. And 3 months later, they've broken up. Because he's leaving. A year later he's back and ... (171 words)

Tired of husbands childish traits. How should I cope?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3971 days ago

30 January 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - Sometimes I really dislike, maybe to the point of hate, my husband. Most of the time he's a great guy. But he has some childish traits that can go beyond irritating. He likes to push buttons and tease to the point where I get genuinely angry, then gets upset with me for gett... (214 words)

Stuck in a bad marriage. What am I going to do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3946 days ago

30 January 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi there guys, I'm a mother of 3 at the age of 27. I'm tired of my husband anymore, it seems that he don't want us, me and my kids.. he always tells me that I'm useless and also he is not a hardworking type of guy..he can't even feed us 3 times a day and I'm sick of this. He ... (127 words)

Taken advantage of in business with friend

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3977 days ago

30 January 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all, I have a problem with a friend that I have known since I was 12 yrs old. Recently she opened a shop and as I have a manufacturing business she asked me if I had any excess stock that she could put in her store on consignment. For those who don't know this simply m... (724 words)

10 days and I haven't heard from him. Will I hear from him again?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3977 days ago

30 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - So I started talking to this guy on an app called Tinder and he was super cute and sweet and we talked for about 2 weeks and were talking about maybe dating and how much we liked each other already without even meeting. And then we went on two dates and they went well. I really ... (397 words)

Is she just too independent? She doesn't seem to care about me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

30 January 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - Is it Ok to want to be alone all the time? I have a friend (a friendship only) who loves her own company, which us fine, we all do at times.. (she lives alone as do I) but its to the point now where she really geniunely likes being alone, she doesn't hate people s... (663 words)

I think my mom is jealous of my girlfriend!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

30 January 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, basically this isn't a big issue, mainly minor but I wanted to ask if anyone had an idea of how to stop it. I've been with my Girlfriend for over a year now and we are both completely in love, since I've been at university, we've just got stronger and mature in our ... (323 words)

I want to just spend time with my boyfriend and not do other things. I know this isn't healthy!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3977 days ago

29 January 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - So I'm in a relatively new relationship. Met him in May, began dating in August and have officially been in a relationship since November. Here's the thing I completely adore him! I was with my ex for 6 years and during the majority of that relationship I thought I was happy ... (183 words)

I read my boyfriend's journal didn't like what I read but now I want to read it again!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

29 January 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm usually not a snoop, I trusted my boyfriend when we were together, but I did something I'm ashamed of. I read his journal, and I didn't like what I read. It basically said his was unhappy with our relationship among other things, but nothing about cheating. Enough to make ... (163 words)

Things aren't the way they used to be with my boyfriend. Should I worry?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3977 days ago

29 January 2014 (F) age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 8 months. When him and I first met and first got into a relationship, things were great. He made a lot of effort to talk with me and to hang out, we spent a lot of time together, and he just seemed really happy. Now the '... (428 words)

Does my coach like me or am I just being stupid?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3977 days ago

29 January 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi im 17 years old, im very confused because of my Taekwondo coach behaviour towards me. Firstly I catch him staring quite a lot when im teaching someone or he sometimes stay near to me, and then help when I've done something wrong, this is no problem I just don't understand ... (207 words)

Would you consider this emotionally cheating?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3976 days ago

29 January 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm posting on here about my friends behaviour with my other friend who's a guy. I introduced them a while back and she and him had a fling, not so long ago, but it ended cause he got a girlfriend. However, even though he's now with someone new, they still keep in touch and ... (242 words)

I'm confused ! everytime I tell him about a guy he get mad & not talk to me for days !

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3926 days ago

29 January 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi, i've a littel problem that i Really wanna share... So, i've known this guy since september at the day of his birthday, he send me a friend request on facebook and ince that we became closer and closer, he is the rock, he saved me a lot of times before, to be honest i... (181 words)

My girlfriend's parents despise me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3978 days ago

29 January 2014 (M)

age 36-40 - I've been with my current girlfriend for almost 3 years now. I know this is the girl I want to marry, but I'm also big on family, and her's has been giving me the cold shoulder. For some background: her family just consists of her, her parents and sister. No aunts, uncles, etc. ... (370 words)

I think I'd be happier with my ex

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3978 days ago

29 January 2014 (M)

age 26-29 - About 4 months ago now I ended my relationship with a girl who I really liked, as I didn't feel ready for a relationship at that point, but it affected me more than I thought it would and I can't go a day without thinking about her and regretting it. I wish I'd never have done ... (131 words)