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writes:I broke up with my ex 7 months ago because we fought too often. We had a brief period of no contact, but eventually he started talking to me again about once a week. We decided to give things another go about 2 weeks ago, but I bought up old issues and we ended up fighting again. He hung up on me saying we were done. The thing that started the fight was I said 'don't let me regret giving you another chance'. Looking back, I can see it's hurtful so I feel like I should apologise. On the other hand, he said a lot worse to me once the fight broke out. Should I apologise or just let it go? I feel like he may contact me at some point (this is the third time he's hung up saying were over but he tends to come back) but I'm not sure. I feel like it's probably my turn to reach out, as I do feel I said the wrong thing, he's also commented before about how he always has to be the first to mend the gap. I feel conflicted about it and don't want to look ridiculous! Help!
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reader, Gauntlet  +, writes (31 January 2014):
 The anonymous reader said it right: never EVER have a serious conversation on the phone, or when you are about to do something else soon. That's how things go easily wrong, no time to be more explicit, harsh words or even insults that are quick and easy to tell instead of good sentences that require more time and more cold blood to be formed.That said, I'm not sure you two are made to be together, and I FEEL (sorry, I don't have enough informations to use the verb TO THINK) your relationship, anyhow you could try to fix it, will end soon or later.It's sad to tell, but people are compatibles or not. My advice would be to watch the Jennifer Connelly's movie "Waking the Dead" (cf: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Waking_the_Dead_%28film%29 ) which is about an impossible love between two people who love each other while having irreconcilable opinions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2014): Maybe you two should try talking in person than on the phone
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (31 January 2014):
 I dont think that it would hurt to give him a call. It would show him that you realize that you are as much to blame here as anything - it isn't unheard of that revisited relationships can work but for them to do so you really do both have to let go of the past - if you can't do that then I would let it go.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (31 January 2014):
Keep looking back at your past, and you will miss the better things right in front of you. They are called EX for a reason… they should no longer EX-ist in your life.
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reader, llifton +, writes (31 January 2014):
 What you should really do is realize that you two, despite loving each other, are clearly not right for each other. You're not supposed to fight like that in a healthy relationships. you gave it another go with him, and already, you're right back to the same old crap. Why bother? Clearly nothing has changed.
Easier said than done, but I would suggest moving on.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (31 January 2014):
 Let it goRule 1 of relationships: When its over, its over.
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