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writes:Hi there :)So, this is the problem: in July my (ex) bf broke up with me, after seven months of relationship. He was my first time, and I really loved him, even though we weren't good with each other.After the break up, I was lonely for a long time, until I met a guy in December. Now we are a couple, and I truly like him. There's a problem, though. I still think about my ex. I don't know, few things come up to my mind, and I am afraid I won't go on with the relationship with my boyfriend, if I don't let my ex go. Any suggestion? How can I live another relationship without being haunted by my past? Is it ever gonna be like that?Thanks for your help.p.s. sorry for my English, I'm Italian :)
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reader, Gauntlet  +, writes (1 February 2014):
 Just read that post on DearCupid, Bella, it will answer your question:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-has-the-new-guy-ive-been-dating.htmlMy answer will then be the same than on this thread: digestion time! You need to digest your last relationship, and it may take some time depending on the density of this "meal" (strength of your former bounds, history, engagement, promises, souvenirs, etc.).But definitely, it will fade with time, it's always how it works. And as the old song says: don't worry, be happy!
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reader, DragonMan  +, writes (31 January 2014):
 Greetings,,1.) Your English is fine, exceptionally readable shame that most English folks can't be as articulate.2.) The thing about the past is that it happened and it will always be a reminder, that is something we cannot change. However what we can change is what we learn from it. After all you say that you and your ex were not good with each other but you loved him. Instead of letting that be a hindrance, learn from it. Use what you learned to grow as a person. Easier said than done I am well aware.What you need to keep telling yourself is why you two split up in the first place, this should help you get the mindset in place and allow you to move on
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