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writes:I'm posting on here about my friends behaviour with my other friend who's a guy. I introduced them a while back and she and him had a fling, not so long ago, but it ended cause he got a girlfriend. However, even though he's now with someone new, they still keep in touch and she's always very flirty with him. She sends him inappropriate text messages and even though he doesn't text back in the same way he will still reply. I just don't think it seems respecable to his new girlfriend keeping in touch with someone like this. They even arrange to meet up for a drink every now and then, just the 2 of them. Me and my friend tell each other anything and everything, so i know theres nothing physical going on with them, but i tell her tht she should just leave him alone to get on with his relationship, but she just wont listen. She thinks that because he's friendly with her and they meet up etc that he kind of leads her on and never really told her to stop with the texts. I don't know, maybe its me worrying for nothing, i dont know, or is he emotionally cheating? I'm also concerned for the sake of his new relationship with this new girl. I worry i should probably never have introduced them to one another! What do you guys think?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 January 2014):
 I agree with the other aunties.
You are not the morality police, you already told them what you thought and obviously they will continue to do "their" thing.
You can't control what others do. This isn't your fault for introducing them way back when. My guess is you had not idea it would turn out the way it did.
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reader, DragonMan  +, writes (31 January 2014):
 Greetings,
I must agree with my learned colleagues.
You've done your piece, your conscience is clean, if a friend refuses to listen then accept that and move on, steer clear of the trouble that you feel will take place and if your friendship fails and falls over then you know you did the right thing
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reader, llifton +, writes (31 January 2014):
 I think that there's nothing wrong with hanging out if:
1. The gf knows about it and is okay with it.
2. They are only friends.
Personally, I would have no problem with this as long as my partner was honest and open about it and made me feel secure. but I'm not a jealous person. I see no reason why they can't keep in contact. However, if she's blatantly flirting and yes flirting back - completely inappropriate.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (31 January 2014):
 OP: Some women just can't keep their legs together, no matter how appropriate that might be... They LOVE to get a man to pleasure them.....
You can't prevent your friend from being a tart for this guy... so don't stress yourself for WHATEVER she does....
Good luck...
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (30 January 2014):
 I think you should stay out of it. You've already told her what you think of all this and they're both adults and should know right from wrong. Any fallout from this 'friendship' will be their problem, not yours.
Wash your hands of it and obviously, don't introduce this friend to anyone else.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 January 2014):
 You told her how you feel so you've done your part. You can't control what others do or say so just sit back and let the cards fall as they may.
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