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*ou3614
writes:HiTo cut a long story short. I've been with my partner for nearly two years. A little less than a year into the relationship my partner treated me real bad. I don't want to go into too much detail but it left me devastated. We was on and off from that point because I didn't know how to handle it and as a result of how I was feeling I slept with a guy on a silly drunken night. He meant nothing to me at all as I was still in love with my partner. After a while I decided to give him another chance as he promised me he would get help and as I saw counselling letters I thought he would change. Now nearly another year has passed and I am now pregnant with his baby and due in six weeks time. My partner has only just confessed to sleeping with another girl and I found out he never went to counselling. He did not turn up. He begged me to forgive him for hurting me only to find out all this. It took me a while to try and forgive him after what he did to me only to find out all this. He is telling me now that we should start afresh for our baby but for me this will be so tough. What should I do?
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reader, lou3614 +, writes (31 January 2014):
lou3614 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe baby is obviously my ex's. I would have stated otherwise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2014): I agree with what "Youwish" has said. You may only "wish" this was really your ex's baby. You need to establish the father before you go any farther.
Purposely misleading a man about a child's paternity is always 100% wrong. Period. No exceptions.
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reader, PeanutButter  +, writes (31 January 2014):
 I think you both need some kind of intervention and coucelling befor you can proceed and honesty needs to be put out there now before you go forward. There is nothing wrong with raising a baby on your own so don't stay if you don't feel you should, but do talk to him, first.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (30 January 2014):
 Well whose baby is this?? You slept with another guy while you were broken up, right? Did you TELL your boyfriend about this? You thought it meant enough to mention it on here, right?
That's the first thing - establishing the paternity of your son or daughter. Cheating is devastating, but it doesn't justify knowingly passing off a child as his when it isn't, and I'm wondering if you didn't get back with the ex because of getting pregnant with this other guy's baby.
Otherwise, toss this guy to the curb. He's a liar and a cheater, and it won't get any better if you have a baby together. Kids don't fix relationship problems. They can make a good relationship stronger and break a bad relationship. Just ask anyone who was abandoned while pregnant.
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