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Archived questions from: 6 January, 2014 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Isn't coming clean about cheating better?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3970 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - I found out yesterday that my ex cheated on me with a callgirl. We are living apart and still seeing each other after living together for 3 years. I found his other phone and home and I am not one to peep at others ph, I felt this strong need to find out the truth as his ... (237 words)

Fingering sometimes hurts.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3970 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and he's fingered me quite a bit. We're both virgins, so he was only inserting ome or two fingers at the most. About a week ago we tried three fingers but it was really sore so we stopped. I'm still really sore and my ... (88 words)

Is he potentially an abuser?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 3969 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - dear cupids, my boyfriend hits his sister, and i fear that a man capable of hitting his sister will hit me too in the future. i explained my fear to him yet he did not promise to stop it, he simply danced around the subject promising that he would never do the same with me. h... (143 words)

I broke up with cheating boyfriend but went back to him. Should I not do that?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3969 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - dear cupids, i need your time today to find an explanation rather than a solution because i think the solution is easier to be told than done. i am in a very serious relation ship with a guy who is working two jobs now to get the money for us to get married, we have a hea... (626 words)

Do I ignore married co-worker? I know I shouldn't act on my feelings!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3970 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi. Well..I am in a strange situation and I'm not sure how to deal with it..I am in a long therm relationship but started to develop feelings for a married colleague and he has feelings for me for more than an year...we never talked about it and kept professional..Bu... (235 words)

After breaking up, am I obligated to speak to him again?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3971 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I told this guy I was seeing that I'm fed up with what we have going . He can be quite rude and last night I said we cant be together nor can we be friends as he obviously can't hack it. Neither can I, the bitterness is real on his end yet he says he'd rather be friends than ... (259 words)

She gets upset when I point out I provide most of the money.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3970 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Ive been with my girlfriend for a year and I really love her. But I think I pushed her away. We've been fighting alot. Mainly because of me throwing everything up in her face. I work and pay for all the bills. She works in a day care but isnt getting any hours because of the ... (252 words)

His friends won't include me and I'm not sure our life goals match.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3968 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi All; Wanted to hear some of your opinions hopefully! I'm really forcing myself to evaluate my relationship of 2.5 years. We've had a rocky one, that lead us to break up for 3 months around a year in. Since that; Our closeness and communication has become very go... (846 words)

What would you consider cheating?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 3969 days ago

6 January 2014 (?) age 51-59 - I have a question for everyone. Would do you consider as cheating? I am divorced and single and have started dating again. I am talking to a new guy mostly texting and he is very interested in me but is uneasy about me talking to other guys he considers it cheating. I still ha... (144 words)

How much space should I give someone with anxiety and depression?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3970 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been dating a man for 8 months now. Most of the time he is a caring, loyal, loving man. However, he leads an extremely stressful life and suffers from anxiety and depression. He is in a failed marriage and is legally separated from his wife. The only thing preventing ... (253 words)

I get turned on when my boyfriend is away, why?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3971 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey! Im 21 years old, sexually active. I have a 2 and a half year old daughter, and I have a boyfriend whom is 10 years older, and we've been together for over a year. We have sex pretty much all the time, at least 7-10 times every single week. He makes me satisfied no dou... (120 words)

I am nervous introducing a man who is 17 years older to my family.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3968 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I am in a relationship with a man I love very much. However, my parents have not met him yet and because of the 17 year age difference I am unsure of how to introduce him to them without them flipping out. I would like to have him be a part of my life with my family but they do ... (186 words)

Guy trouble for 3.5 years, is he just using me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3971 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - 1. Starting in Oct '11 when he moved in. 2. Took him seriously three months to even talk to me. 3. ALL of 2011 when he DID talk to me the VERY few times, he would pick small stupid fights with me, not even a normal conversation. 4. He gave me his glasses and for me to h... (1201 words)

I want to try swinging, but I don't know if I can without him loving me!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3968 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - Ok, we have only been dating about 5 months but I'm really fallen for him. I could even say I am falling in love.(I'm 44 and he is 46) I ended a 25 y marriage, but have been dating for about 4 y and this is the most serious relationship I have had. ..Let me start by saying ... (212 words)

I love him but don't want his life.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3971 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years and our relationship is great. We've been through so many problems before and now he said he wants to marry me soon. Problem is, we come from totally different background. Our lifestyle and environment is again so different. My fa... (321 words)

Issues with self-esteem within a relationship. How do I boost my confidence?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3971 days ago

6 January 2014 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi there, I am having trouble with my self-esteem. I can't help but feel inadequate whenever I see guys on tv and in ads etc. I know it sounds silly and I try to laugh it off in my own head but I still seem to have an internal dilemma there. I know it's not real and ... (374 words)

He hasn't suggested a second date?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3971 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I met this guy, we went out on a date and everything went really well! We talked about going out again, we have texted each other everyday since the date. We talked about our days off, but he hasn't asked about going out again. Do you think it slipped his mind, or does he not ... (82 words)

Why did she change her mind?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3950 days ago

6 January 2014 (M)

age 36-40 - Hey, I try to make it short I know her for over 6 years now. She was with my best friend for 5 years. They immigrated to NZ, but she came back because they had rs problems. She was totally down and sad. I tried to be a good friend for her and helped her a lot ( moving in a ... (939 words)

My daughter's boyfriend is 31 years older than her!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3971 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - I have a 19-year-old daughter, an only child; she's in university studying medicine, and wants to work in the NHS. It's not her university I'm writing in about, but her choice of partner; he's 50, and a bathroom salesman. I'm not criticising his job, nothing wrong with that.... (546 words)

Should I just delete him from my life or keep hoping for something that might or might not happen?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3971 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - We have been dating for a semester. He was an exchange student from France and now he went back (he is not in Paris). I'm going to France in a week as an exchange student but in a city quite far from his. And he will begin an internship. We have talked about this many times but ... (654 words)

How can I rock my girlfriend's world?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3843 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my girlfriend for a good few months now blissfully in a gay relationship...at first sex was amazing and I never had issues - now however, I dont seem to be able to do much to her. She says she loves it and I really turn her on, we swap sex texts and things are ... (165 words)

It's always the ones you don't want.... Who agrees?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3970 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I don't know if other people get this but I've noticed in life the people who chase us and praise us are the ones we aren't very attracted to, yet the people we are attracted to a lot are quick to lose interest or not interested in us? My ex was good looking (in my eyes) kin... (135 words)

I'm so worried about finding a partner because I'm so out of synch with everyone else!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3971 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - Can anyone help generally with a predicament that I seem to continually get into about finding a partner as my own life seems to still be 'out of synch' with everyone else's pattern? I'm in my mid forties and would like a partner around the same age or slightly older, ... (1555 words)

Is it weird that I've never had sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3970 days ago

6 January 2014 (M)

age 26-29 - i'm 18 years old,a vergin and i like to mastibate...always when my friends talk about sex i feel lonely knowing that i never had sex,i just want to knw is it normal?... (32 words)

Invited out for a drink, but what to drink when I have to drive!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3971 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm going on a first date with a guy I met at a party and we're going to get a drink. I'm not a big drinker and we're both driving there separately. I've maybe drank 5 times in my life. I really don't drink a lot. I already agreed to get a drink so that's what we're doing. I ... (130 words)

Change to a bad boy, or stay the same

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3970 days ago

6 January 2014 (M)

age - Hey, so what am asking is can a man be to nice, like opening car doors, helping with her coat on an off, saying nice things to her every day,asking her how was her day, you know like at work, taking her to nice places to eat, poems, flowers, just wanting her to feel wanted, an ... (167 words)

I am getting ready to be a step mummy ...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3970 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello everyone, This is a statement, a little bit of a story, question, a call for help and advise... The statement: Single ladies stop kissing frogs your better than that, look up you might just find your Prince Charming stuck up a tree or something... I went through ... (444 words)

Is my husband gay? Or is this an outlet for his bisexuality?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3971 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - My husband and I have been together for 7 years married for 3 and I have always known he is bisexual which has never been an issue for me until recently. I recently discovered that he has another Facebook profile that I am blocked on which lists that he is gay and single. ... (492 words)

Her leaning into me felt good, does it mean I could ask her out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3971 days ago

6 January 2014 (M)

age 36-40 - I go to this gym where while group exercising they check the heart rate of the exercisers at random. There are 2 or 3 instructors who do the checking. Yesterday a girl checked mine while I was on the exercise bike. She did what no other had done, which is to lean completely ... (121 words)

We moved too fast so we are starting again!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3972 days ago

6 January 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - I've been dating this girl off and on for about 4 months now and i've clearly messed up by letting my emotions get in the way by having sex with her a couple of times, the 2nd month we've meet. I am deeply regretting having intercourse with her this early on without getting to ... (218 words)

How to know when he is the one to marry?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3971 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, My partner has told me that he would like to propose to me soon. I was wondering how you know when they are the one? We've been together for 7 years. I do love him and we've been through a lot of hard times, we are comfortable with each others flaws and I know I can tr... (270 words)

My partner betrayed my trust and I don't know what to believe now...and we have a 3 month baby so leaving him is not an option

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3970 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi I have been with my partner for 2 years. We live together and have a 3 month old baby. We are both 25 years old and we plan to get married in the near future. He is a good partner and father but I have a problem. When I had known him for only 2 weeks, I found evidence o... (364 words)

What did he mean, "you don't have to sell your soul"

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3971 days ago

6 January 2014 (F)

age - Hello, I have been having an affair with a separated man. He has been separated for 5 years but remains in close contact with his wife who lives close by. She has never found anybody else and always hopes they will get back together. He has been gone for 5 years and has no ... (638 words)