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writes:I have seeing this guy for 3.5 years. We met on the job and I thought he was a good man, come to find out that he is insecure, low self esteem and a big flirt. At first he said he was not looking for a serious relationship but over the yrs he fell for me and his actions showed me that he wanted a relationship. Anyway just two weeks ago we broke up, we have been on bad terms for a minute but I tuff it out with him cause I thought he really love me he would start to say he don't want this and just accuse me of cheating etc it got so bad I mean the mental emotional and even physical that I went through with him.I received a text and about him cheating on me and he don't love me so I told the person to call an they did, well they said that he said that he did not care about me and he is just with me cause I give good oral sex. That really hurt me cause I cant believe he said that, this guy blame me for every thing that went wrong with him, he blames me if he cant perform in bed right, I mean u name it its my fault.Why didnt he just leave me alone if he did not love me? I told him if he wanted out I will leave cause I love him enough to leave, I wanted him to be happy and if that was not with me then so be it. I am so hurt and it is hard for me to move on cause he makes me out to be the bad one when it was him all along. Why did he do me this way and how do I get over him, I think about this every day, I am tired of crying, he was the one that was doing wrong and he always accuse me. Please help me?
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reader, llifton +, writes (31 January 2014):
 It's always the cheater who accuses their partner of cheating. It's so shitty.
The only thing you can do is buckle down and work towards moving on. I'm sure he did love you, but that's not what you need to concern yourself with at the moment. don't stress over why he did it or how he could do that to you. Focus on the fact that he did and now you need to move on.
In the big scheme of things, the reason why he did it or if he ever really loved you doesn't matter. I know, so much easier said than done, right? But it's true. don't focus on the things you can't change. The only thing you can change is how you feel. You can regroup and move on. Build strength and say "screw this asshole!" You didn't deserve what he did and you know it. So don't waste another day on him and focus on your own happiness.
Surround yourself with your friends and family. Fall back on them because that's what they're there for. And eventually, you'll not even think twice about this jerkoff.
Best of luck and keep your head up!
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