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writes:Hey there,So basically I was at a huge law firm lecture and an ex pupil of my university was there, I've never met him before but he came straight over, introduced himself and started to chat. When we went into the lecture he said to his friend I'm going to sit with (my name) and then someone sat next to me so he sat behind.Anyway after the lecture he didn't come talk to me but was glancing over now and again and we kept meeting eyes and smiling. By the end of the night I thought nothing was going to happen but when I got outside he came over and my bitchy friend ran over to see what was happening but he said to me that he would like to meet up with "you guys" when he's in town and I agreed and then somehow we got on the conversation of drinking and I don't drink because of the effects and calories.Anyway my friend said she doesn't drink because she makes an idiot out of herself like once she went up to a Canadian and said "not being funny but your accent is sexy". I majorly blushed and he just chuckled then told me he didn't have Facebook so how would he contact me, so I offered number and he told me to take his business card and text him. So this is where it gets interesting when do I text him?Is he interested or is this a booty call?And also he is a lot older then me but I actually like him there was this instant chemistry from the beginning. Sorry for this being long but I wanted to include all details.Hope you guys can help me out here I'm so confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2014): dont call, just write a text if u want to. just write something like, "hey, how's it going?" just keep it casual and see wut happens. but be careful. he's an older guy. a lot of older guys take advantage from younger ladies. make sure you go out in the day. it could be dangerous in the night. but he might be interested. but just be careful, ok?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2014): Wait till after the ball- if he is interested, he'll find out through your mutual friend if you are and will show up. Never take a guys number, have them take yours. Let him do the work .
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2014): At this point it's impossible to know. I personally don't like when guys don't take my phone number but give me theirs. I like them to call me first. That's first. Booty calls are very easy to distinguish. UsualLy it's a late night invitation to the house or a drive which can lead to sex in a car. There is no date with "movie and a dinner". When a guy never sets a date, but every single time calls you at night after 10 p.m. It's a booty call. In this case all you did is took his pone number. Call him or text few days later and see what happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2014): Hey. So I'm who posted the question. He doesn't have my number yet and asked me to text him so we could meet up. I live about an hour away from him and I'm not the type of girl who goes out and sleeps with a guy on the first date. I normally wait until the 3rd or 4th date and want to know where the relationship is going I have waited a day and a half to text him as I don't want to seem eager but then I don't want him to think I'm not interested. I know men want sex it's part of life but like don't want to offer him it on a silver platter I want him to know he has to work for it because we will alway bump into each other at events and I don't want it to be awkward . He emailed a friend saying he might go to the law ball but doesn't know yet :/
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (31 January 2014):
There's no way to know what he's after until you take it further. It could be either at this point.
Most men will take a woman out and attempt to sleep with them after only one or two dates. This doesn't mean they don't like you. But if you sleep with them you've given them little incentive to really get to know you and take the relationship further.
I recommend waiting until his actions prove he is interested in more than just sex. If he goes on a number of dates and keeps coming back even if he's not getting sex, then you have your answer but if he doesn't seem interested when there's no sex involved then yes, that's all he wants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2014): How long ago did all this happen? Your friend sounds a bit goofy, and he'll probably go after her first. She made it apparent that she's a ding-a-ling, and a prime target for a booty call.
If you're dealing with an adult male, there is always the possibility that it could all lead to sex. Why else would a presumed heterosexual male approach and flirt with a presumed heterosexual female; unless he hoped it will eventually lead to sex?
The important thing is that you not let the situation go anywhere you don't want it to. It's not like he has complete mind-control over you; or you are so naive you don't know that men are after sex.
You can contact him whenever like. If he hasn't bothered to call, it's likely he's not that much interested; and left it up to you to decide if you are.
I wouldn't make a big deal out of it, I think he would have suggesting going out for dinner or something, the night he met you.
He's testing how eager you are to get a man. So he's not calling; knowing you're going to do exactly what you're doing. Wonder! If he calls out of nowhere in the middle of the night, you'll have your answer.
He was hoping you'd have called him that very night.
My opinion, he's probably traveling out of town and trolling for an easy lay.
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